Should I get married? The obvious answer is NO but...

I love him and very much enjoy being with him

Cons:
-has a very unpredictable son situation that will continue to affect us in the years to come
-still in contact with ex's family on regular basis
-hides emails from me (contact with ex)
-he has never met any of my friends in 1.5 years we've been dating..although we do live 8 hrs away
-sometimes the way he can just give up and his anger scares me
-he wants little to do with my family and doesn't think too highly of them especially because they are not too into the fact that we are getting married
-doesn't put much effort into the relationship probably because even if he doesn't do anything i will still do what needs to be done to keep us together
-is obssessed with the computer
-is not very emotionally intelligent
-is always focused on one thing (no its not sex) and ignores everything else

Pros:
-his family and i love each other
-we already have a great little life together
-we love to be spontaneous with each other with everyday things
-he is very playful and affectionate which i love
-loves spending time with me
-really wants us to get married

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You live 8 hours apart?

You live 8 hours apart? Maybe try moving in together before taking the leap? I know you love him, put you have more cons than pros.

"If I turn into another, Dig me up from under what is covering the better part of me" -Incubus

I may be wrong but I took it

I may be wrong but I took it to mean that she and her BF live 8 hours away from her friends.

"There are two things over which you have complete dominion, authority, and control over - your mind and your mouth".

How long have you guys been

How long have you guys been together?

Rule of thumb: The issues you have now, will be the same issues you have in the marriage. They don't go away, and sometimes they even get more annoying/frustrating after marriage.

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seems tough to know someone

seems tough to know someone well enough to marry them when you live 8 hrs apart.

sorry i guess i wrote it

sorry i guess i wrote it wrong..we live together and 8 hrs away from everyone else (his family,, my family, all of our friends, his son, ex, etc)

Did you say the obvious

Did you say the obvious answer is No? Then you have your answer already. If I knew then what I know NOW....girl I would have ran for the hills SCREAMING and I wouldn't have looked back!!!! I love DH VERY much...but all the baggage and drama that surrounds him...therefore me too....is TOO much to handle sometimes. Why couldn't I have found a nice guy with no kids and LOTS of money?!?!?! HAHAHA Kidding....maybe

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