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BM Ruining Skids social life

eforest2000's picture

Now, skids are typically with us 90% of the time. Recently, BM started to take more interest in them so they're over at her house more. (50 50 custody). I noticed that SD10 was getting fewer playdates- everyone's booked, people aren't inviting her over as much. I found out why from another mom. Apparently, on her weekends, BM emails all of SD10's friends parents. She even emails parents of kids SD isn't friends with. With each parent, she tries to arrange a play date, which hopefully does not occur at her house. So, the first parent emails back saying "sure, my daughter can hang out w SD" So, BM makes plans. Then, if another parent emails back (and it's a parent BM likes more) she makes up a stupid excuse and cancels plans with the first person. (If this sounds confusing it is). Her goal is to make sure the kids are out of her house as much as possible. So, if another parent emails back and says "sure, SD can come over to my house all day Saturday, overnight, and all day Sunday" then she'l cancel on the parent that she just made plans with (so now she's canceled on two people) and SD ends up hanging out with the last family- so shes out of the house all day Saturday and Sunday.

Now, nobody wants to make plans with SD because on their end, there are a lot of last minute cancellations and switches. The other parents talk to each other so they've caught on to what BM is doing and they want no part in it. They are just fed up with the lying too.

Honestly, who does this? BM has successfuly pissed off just about every parent in SD's social circle.

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Just J's picture

That's pretty damn shady. And I'm sorry but at age 10, she should be making arrangements with her friends directly and then clearing it with parents. I think 10 is a little old for mommy to be making the play dates. My DD is 9'and she and her friends call each other first and us moms talk after. Poor girl, she's going to lose all of her friends through no fault of her own.

eforest2000's picture

She is perfectly capable of making plans with her friends and she is encouraged to do so when at our house. I need to speak to the other moms I think- I feel shy because I'm the step mom, but maybe I need to put myself out there more. DH has suggested that when I drop her off at a friend's house (OK so she's not 100% black listed) that I get out of the car and chat with the parents there.