I'm sorry but I can't see a father seriously turning his back on his minor daughter who just gave birth to twins. Sure, BM shouldn't either, but this child has two parents and her father shouldn't be turning his back on her.

I'm curious though. Is SD interested in raising these babies? Maybe DH and Dreary could adopt them?

In any case, while this is a hard situation for everyone involved, I can't imagine telling my husband that his minor daughter couldn't come to him in a time of need like this.

What happens if he can't find a place to take them? What will the hospital do?

The hospital would probably call social services and they would try to find a foster family to take her and the babies in. Your husband would then be on the hook for paying the state child support for his child.

Who has legal residential custody? That parent needs to provide a roof over her head. As for the babies, she needs to relinquish them for adoption. There is a loving family that will raise them in a non-hostile environment.

I feel for this girl. I think she has two crap parents. It's no wonder she ended up pregnant at 15.

(if this is real) there is a big chunk missing here. So SD has been living with BM right up until the birth of these twins and now BM has suddenly declared that SD is not allowed at her home. Now, given that a pregnancy is at least 7-8 months, (maybe she went early because she's young and had twins), there HAD to be some preparation for these babies. So clothes were purchased, bottles, crib etc. Where are these things? At BM's?? Did she happen to mention when she called DH what she was planning on doing with all this stuff since SD won't be returning??

I'm skeptical as a story similar to this has played out around here before and this just seems to be too perfect a storm to be believable. (SD was raped, SD has twins, BM kicks SD out, etc etc)

Best case scenario for your SD and those babies is for her to give them up for adoption. Guessing that isn't even an option being considered.

I see an upside to no one rushing to bring the three of them home -- perhaps the hospital social worker and DFACS worker(s) can convince her that raising these babies is going to be too hard and to consider adoption.

I don't know the story here, but if the father of the baby is over 16 (maybe 18) depending on state, he likely will be prosecuted if the state intervenes -- which isn't a bad thing it sounds like.

If SD goes into the system, both dad and mom will be paying child support.

If you are in the US. The state government will come after both of them BM and BF to pay for SD and SG. They will take you to court and get what they can get per month. They are not your kids or grandkids, if your SO the BF want to stay home and take care of his DD and GK that up to him. You don't have to do it. Let who ever is calling you names take care of SD, you have the same connection with SD as other poster.

I would be ashamed to be a parent of a 15 year old who has just had twins and I was calling my relatives to see if someone else could take them in.

I would be ashamed to be married to a man who would refuse shelter to his 15 year old child and her newborn kids. I would strongly consider leaving a man that acted like that.

If I were you and I strongly felt that I could not live with the babies, I would find somewhere for me to stay temporarily until more permanent arrangements can be made or sd moves back in with BM. I would feel very guilty at not doing what I could to prevent these children ending up in care.

There is no "WE" in leaving SD and the twins in the hospital. This is ALL on your DH and BM.

Is the house yours AND your DH's? Frankly, your stance of 'I will kick them all out and divorce him so fast' would be the catalyst for me to say 'Fine. We're getting divorced.'

SD is 15. FIFTEEEN. She was RAPED. I struggled with fertility, too, but gawdalmighty, I'd have to be one heartless piece of work to not try and help this girl. SMDH

This sounds awful familiar. I originally thought this was the story about the SS who got the DD pregnant and the BM forced them to have the babies (twins) and BM was going to adopt them. BM was also threatening to file charges against the SD because she was older than the SS.

Call me crazy but I swear I thought this was the same person. I didn't recall any story about rape.

Call the hospital social worker and ask her to put you in touch with whoever at social services handles these cases. There are programs and help available to children (and SD at 15 is a child) in these circumstances.

SD is 15. You may not be aware, but most likely social services is already involved. Get in touch with them. They can help.

Don't make any decisions unless and until.you have complete information.

How sad to think that some where there are twin babies that no one wants to deal with.

Listen, you may not like what I have to say, but sometimes good advice is hard to swallow. SD made a mistake getting pregnant-BUT before she made any mistakes, there were parenting mistakes made on the part of BM and DH. Your SD is 15 of course she 's going to wax and wane at BM's will-children are more likely to be closer to a parent of the same sex, she's a teenage caught in the middle of a clearly hostile situation. THIS is not her cross to bear alone.

I am truly empathetic with your fertility problems, I've lost babies too and I know how much that blows. I have a friend who is currently going through treatments and they're not working. I have seen first hand that heartbreak. But when I had my daughter, guess who was next to me a soon as she could be? Babies exist in the world, finding a way to cope with that will not be easy, but it will be liberating. If it's possible for you, whether SD is going to use them against you or not, perhaps, it would be nice to just spend some time loving on them and solidifying that this is what you really want, WHILE supporting your SO. Your & BM's SO's ultimatums are unacceptable and not fair to your SO's. The difference between them and you is that you can opt out-they cannot. This is their child.

SD is a kid herself who still needs to be cared for. This is on the adults in her life to figure out. Not just leave her and her babies in a hospital-that is completely absurd and incredibly sad regardless of whatever extracurricular antics are surrounding the situation.

Adoption would be the best option for these babies.

Shocking that social services within the hospital has NOT CAUGHT on to the issues inside this family.

The main focus IS the newborn twins and and the 15 year old who just gave birth. Again I say, I find it rather curious social services has not intervened. SOMEONE should be on the horn calling them to help with support and services to this new mother.

What a complete mess.

Never mind. I really have nothing good to say about the 'adults' involved in all of this. SMDH.

So is there an update? Have the SD and the twins been released and where did they go?

Has your DH went to pick up his daughter and grandbabies?

I truly am sorry for your infertility issues and the heartache that causes you.
Regardless, your husband’s flesh and blood child and grandchildren are in serious need of help right now. Considering this child is a young teen, she still needs plenty of parental guidance. This problem is not yours to solve and no one can fault you for you doing what you need to do to take care of yourself here.

Your husband, he has an obligation to his daughter regardless of their past history. He should be supported in this rather than having to fear banishment of his marriage hung over his head. I can't know what you're going through in your infertility struggles but it isn’t fair or right to use emotional blackmail to try and force your DH to make a decision that you favor.

Now for the babies and parentage. It is possible that each baby has a different father. Even if the babies are going to be adopted out, I hope the work is done to identify the father/fathers.