This situation is literally making me physically ill....i can't talk to DH because he sees SD27 as beyond reproach and blows up at me if i make any negative comment...i feel like im walking on eggshells...i do care about the grand kids...yes i do consider them grandkids...i took care of them from the time they were 5 weeks old..but i do realize that i am holding alot of resentment in this situation because of the way SD27 has treated myself and my BD19...and truthfully because of how DH has put SD as #1 from theday we got married...his opinion is that my children are evil and his are perfect...i am torn trying to separate those issues from the situation so that i clearly do whats best for the grand kids