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27 year old manipulative sd

doormatt's picture

Oh how i appreciate this site...have been reading on here and it helps to know that i'm not the one living in make-believe land...i have heard the "you hate my daughter" line so many times...i thought moving hundreds of miles away would help the situation...nope...she just uses that to make her dad feel even guiltier...the old "i'm here with my 2 girls all alone" drama...she is seperated from her husband and uses that every time she thinks someone else is getting attention...she also uses the oh poor me my mother died line...yes it is sad that she lost her mom...she was 20 when her mom died...(we did not know each other before and got married after her mother passed)..i have tried to be good to this person..have watched the girls that i am no longer allowed to have anything to do with...cleaned her house...cooked for her...etc...all in a vain attempt to make his children like me...done with that crap....she will call or message her dad whining about how hard it is for her and how much she misses her mom (once again i am not saying she doesn't miss her mom)but it has been several years now and she uses this to cause problems between her dad and me...if she doesn't call or text it she is putting it on facebook..and what really gets me is he thinks she is perfect...this woman's house is filthy beyond belief...yes she does work but she spends the money for stuff for herself and partying...kids think every meal comes from a drive thru or delivery..the oldest is in kindergarten and is expected to walk herself home and entertain herself while mom sleeps or is passed out as the case may be...sorry this is so long...just really needed to vent

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ctnmom's picture

What is with these adults that don't have a whit of self sufficiency? It really burns me. At some point they have to sink or swim on thier own. My own father drowned when I was 22, it was awful, I went to his hometown for the funeral and was back to work in 3 days- I was a young wife and we needed the money. Niether one of my parents have ever been in a position to give me anything, my DH and I will probably be helping my mother out at some point. It's called BEING AN ADULT.Dang!

doormatt's picture

I havent posted on here in quite some time, but I have been on here reading other posts. I see so many posts and responses that relate to my situation that I havent felt the need to post. Today I decided to vent...lol. SD is now 30 years old..still married to oldest 2 girls father but living with another man and had a child by him...DH still thinks she walks on water...he has made the 1000 mile trip in June, July and August to spend time with his precious princess...I was conned into making the trip in June..came to find out it was because he blew thru all his money and I had to pay for everything...it was a miserable trip for me and I stated it was my last...SD never calls, texts, skype s or lets the girls either, unless she thinks DH is giving too much attention to me or my grandchildren,,,then the fb posts start..either many pics of her, her and boyfriend or perhaps the children or the posts about how much she misses her mother...all of which are designed to make DH fall all over himself to make her feel special and loved..this is beside the weekly posts he puts there to her about he loves and misses her...when I pointed out to him that it was pretty excessive he blew up...(by the way the few times he went to a counselor with me..the counselor even told him he had an unhealthy relationship with his daughter...he walked out on counselor when she said that)I have tried to explain my feelings...that I dont expect him to not have contact with his daughter but that I felt he put her as his only priority and that as an adult with her own relationship and family that i thought our marriage should be a priority...i was called stupid, crazy bitch and he would never give up his daughter for me...just tired