So, June is looking to be very eventful for my family and me. It's kinda overwhelming, really, to even think about it, but here's the run-down thus far:

June 2 - custody/child support modification hearing for FDH.
FDH has, for the past year+ now, been paying CS with no real visitation rights (CO states he can visit w/ his son while in the state BM lives in as allowed per his military schedule; he's been able to see his kid *once* since '09). According to the CO, he gets to call his son every Sat. at 3pm our time/ 5pm BM's time. BM regularly denies him the ability to talk to his son and that's assuming she even answers the phone. FDH is feeling very defeated at this point as BM's mom is a retired judge in the neighboring county (his case was handled in the county exMIL lived in, but lawyer got change of venue after initial train wreck of a court appearance), and he is worried she still has a lot of ties to the community and may be able to influence the judge's decision in the upcoming case. BM has lately been suggesting that the only visitation *she* would agree to would be supervised visit w/ FDH - which he would, of course, not be able to accomidate because we live several states away due to his occupation. He is completely unhappy with the current arrangement of paying for a child he never sees, and has recently begun talking about severing parental rights if the judge orders anything resembling that set-up.

June 6 - FDH surgery.
FDH has been very, very sick since a little before the beginning of this year. He is unable to eat or drink anything and has lost about 90 lb.s. He has to go into his aid station about every 2 to 3 days to get IV fluid because he passed out at work due to dehydration. He's looking at a 2 - 3 wk recovery time before he can even resume "light duty" at work.

June 20 - Mom coming to visit for 3 wks.
How to even explain this one. I love my mom by virtue of the fact that she's my mom and I feel some strange requirement to love her. Having said that, I also hate my mom. She's not someone I would choose to be friends with - ever. All the psycho BM stories here probably apply to her. She is lazy, entitled, childish, crude, filthy, etc. I have, since I was a young teen, felt we had a reverse relationship; I was the mom and she was the child. Her 2nd husband was abusive to my little brothers and me; when he hit her, though, she divorced him. I had to get a FT job at 16 because, even with my dad paying CS, she "couldn't afford me." I bought my own clothes, my own car, my own car insurance, and even much of my own food. My mom re-married shortly after I started working and kicked me out b/c her husband didn't like me (specifically, he, too, was a child abuser and he didn't like the fact that I wouldn't stand by and just watch him physically abuse my little brothers). My mom was constantly broke and "borrowing" money from me. By the time I was 17 she owed me about $5k and I realized I would never see that money again. I cut her off and out of my life for the most part, and have only recently begun letting her back in a little at a time. Some visits are good. Many visits are desatrous. I'm probably feeling more anxiety over this one than anything else.

June 24ish - Baby w/ C-cect.
I'll actually be scheduling the exact date for the C-sect. tomorrow, but my OB/GYN has already said it would be around this date. I'm really excited about the new baby, but I'm soooooo dreading the recovery . . . and the fact that FDH will also still be recovering during that time and my mom will be here spreading her filth throughout my home with there being little I can do about it. *sigh*

Sometime during all this - getting married.
FDH wants us to be married b/c he wants to be on the baby's birth cert. I respect that and understand it's just a simple matter of going to the court house, but with everything else going on, it just feels like one more thing to deal with.