Well I guess I don't have to worry about getting married anymore because we just had a HUGE blow up that included his daughter16 calling me a crazy bitch. SO went yesterday to sign his lease on their apartment. I was hurt because I felt like they were throwing it in my face and celebrating. SO and I were still engaged and still seeing each other. I love him more than anything, but felt like the only way we even stood a chance was if he and his two, girl16 and boy20, moved into an apartment. I have a 3 bedroom 2 1/2 bath house and two sons, 17 and 19. My dining room was turned into a bedroom where his son had set up his "crib". Big screen tv, couch (that he slept on instead of his bed before we even met), love seat, recliner, the whole set up for a living room. Sis was sleeping on blow up mattress. No, it wasn't the perfect set up, but we were trying to get some credit issues cleared up, sell my house, and buy a larger home for all of us. They have lived here for almost a year, and in that time my younger son bawled his eyes out and told me he was moving to his dad's. I cried for a week while SO's daughter was moved into his room within an hour. You have no idea how much it hurt me that she didn't even consider my feelings or care that my son left because of all of the tension in the house. Daughter left with her dad after our argument but not without putting her fowl mouthed digs in. SO's son was left here at the house. We talked about what started the whole thing off.

I told his son that when I met his dad last night at a restaurant, he asked me if I just wanted to go home because I wasn't smiling. I told him that I had just spent two hours at the gym and could he just give me a minute? His response was "you know what?" "let's just go home!" then he stormed off to his car and we left. When we got home I go upstairs to take a shower and he goes into the garage to get drunk with him. Never talked about it, just came up to bed drunk and passed out. I told him that his dad has done this to me before. He gets real loud in a restaurant before storming out the door and embarrassing the crap out of me. His son said that's the way he is, he's good about letting something tiny turn into something big. The funny thing is, SO's son agreed with everything I was crying about. He and I talked about the only way for everyone to have their kids back was for them to move into an apartment. He agreed with me and said that there would be a lot less stress and tension among everyone too. He and sis wanted to move out. I knew that, but today it was my fault to SO that they were moving? I really do think that we could have worked things out after they moved. The only time we argued was about the kids. I really do love him so much but don't see how we can get past this blow up since his biggest cheerleader is gone with him now.

I'm sorry guys. I pretty much passed out after my post and just woke up. Boundaries were set before they moved in, but, as I have learned, when it comes to his kids, he may put up a good front verbally reprimanding them, but 10 minutes later he's back to I love you and hugs with them. Yes, he signed their lease yesterday. I thought it was ironic when one of you referred to his daughter as his mini wife. My mom said the same thing after the first meeting of her. It's unbelievable! Now you can understand the reason for my original post.