I have gotten to the point that if I don't write this down I will explode. I have a BD (20) and BS (17) and my DH is a fabulous SD. We are truly a family. The problem is with my 2 SDs (30 and 33). They take, take, take and ask, ask ask. They use our home as a free vacation many times a year because once they get to CA everything is paid for for them. They have no student loans, we have subsidized their rents when they were starting out and unemployed and they both have no shame in asking for us to pay for things for them. I must admit that my DH has gotten better at saying no to them but they call and butter him up and they always get something in the end. It sickens me to watch it unfold. Just recently my DH's satanic mother passed away. She had always told him that all three of her children would split her estate. Well, she left 2/3 to his brother and sister and left my DH $1. The remaining 1/3 went to my SDs, one million dollars. She is probably laughing in hell, she always loved to stir up trouble and because I have a great job and we have a beautiful house she probably thought she would just give It to the kids. The problem is I am the main breadwinner of the family and all that we have and all that we spend is because of me. I resent all the money that went to his kids because my DH kept telling me one day he would get the inheritance. Now I have my own 2 to put through college and I cantvstop hating his two spoiled over indulged brats. I don't know if I love my DH more than I hate my SDs. If I don't want to end up paying him $5K a month alimony I need to get out before we are married 10 years. My own children will suffer if we divorce, they love him very much and I love him but I don't want my SDs in my life anymore.