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Submitted by DaniSanti83 on Mon, 05/20/2019 - 9:31pm

Does anyone feel they are in a never ending circle? I love my DH to pieces but I am so tired of the cycle whether it be a week, a month, 3 months, it is always the same. We talking about changing the pattern and the communication rhythm but we always go back to finger pointing normal for us. Of course it is miserable...could I do it alone sure I could..BUT there is no other man in this world I would want to "live in this hell with"  if that makes any twisted sense at all lol! Break the circling chain of events so we can flow into something more is that possible? 

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Submitted by Clipper on Mon, 05/20/2019 - 9:48pm

I share your thoughts and my wife is wonderful however the longer this crap goes on I can honestly say I don't feel the same way and the situation is not going to get any better.  It's both our second marriage and I don't want to see my self as not successful however I did not know the stepkids baggage was like this. I'm afraid to share this with anyone other than this website because people would tell me why are you still in this 

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Submitted by shamds on Mon, 05/20/2019 - 10:52pm

i have told my husband i can’t have skids in my life... the shit i have endured, the abuse and how they treat our kids (their half siblings). Every single one of the 3 skids are toxic ferals... hubby knows they are out of control and is so done with them... he struggles that not even 1 of them is like him. Well when bio mum is hcgubm, narcissistic and pas what do you expect?

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Submitted by MommyT on Mon, 05/20/2019 - 11:55pm

Communication is the key and committing to changing yourself also helps. BM never changes her ways or even tries so DH and I have agreed that we don’t care but we also don’t to let her push us around. If she messes up and tries to blame us, we let ss know this is not our fault and you need to talk to your BM about it. I get these parents who want to protect their kids by shielding them from the conflict but that’s not reality people. Your kids are going to have conflict in their life and instead of hiding it, show them that there is a correct way to have a conversations disagreement. If the other parent wants to be cjvildish then let them. Break the freaking cycle.

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Submitted by Christina10717 on Tue, 05/21/2019 - 8:18am

I have battled this battle for 12 years and it truly is a never ending cycle. SD16 has kept tension in our home for 12 years with manipulation with BM. Not to add the BM is constantly pulling my husband into some sort of issue. Ive learned that I just have to ignore it and let him fight his own battles!