Will it ever be enough????
I am so upset right now. I completely forgot about this site, but am in desperate need of venting!!
It is not enough that I sold MY HOUSE, moved an hour away from work, family, friends.... basically my whole life so we could be closer to SD!! We now get her every other week!! Shouldn't that be enough???
I get up at 5am 4 days a week, drive an hour (through snow storms) to my job, work 10 hours then drive an hour back home!! We have horses, so I spend another 2 hours in the barn mucking stalls and feeding them. (not everyday, but more than 50%). I usually get to eat dinner at 8pm which is cereal because I am too tired to make anything and of course there is nothing else made. AND I'm alone. Why.... well because DH and SD are gone to hockey practise or a game or baseball practise!!!!
And I'm the "terrible step mom" because I don't want to take SD to her hockey practice, after my 12 hour work day, and driving HER another 30 min to practice...... then sitting at the arena for 1.5 hours..... then driving 30 min back home!!!!!
WTF......
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You are absolutely not a
You are absolutely not a terrible step mom (or person, for that matter) for not wanting to taxi her around and hang out at her hockey practice.
In fact, you are a better person than me because I would not have done any of that.
You did/do all of that for your DH, what does he do for you? What sacrifices does he make?
Its the life of a parent. And
Its the life of a parent. And step parent. I too work full time and have my bio son and SD full time. It can be exhausting at time.
Wish I could hire a cook and maid. Lol
I have a similar story and it
I have a similar story and it was never enough. Sometimes love is just not enough and parents do want to spend most of their time with their kids; what can one do? everyone has the right to live as they see fit, so if it doesn't change and you feel your effort is not paying off and still are the bad guy, maybe it's time to start thinking about leaving. When husbands/Sos are happier without us in their lives, there's nothing left to do.
If you are treated like crap,
If you are treated like crap, you do nothing. If you are treated fairly and cordially, you do what you are comfortable doing. When DH doesn't listen to me about SS, I move out of the way and let him handle it. When he is open to my opinion, then I am more inclined to do things for SS. It is up to them for me to be nice.
I have a feeling the horses
I have a feeling the horses are better company then DH and his offspring. My dogs are needy, especially the one year old puppy with the house breaking issue, but I am starting to prefer their company over DH, and definitely over SKIDS.
Thanks for the input. We
Thanks for the input. We bought our farm only 7 months ago so I am not ready to give up!! But things definitely need to change.
I think a couple of days away will help him appreciate me too!! Good idea!!