DF and I are travelling with my Bios to the home state of the SDs this week. We stay with my family, who lives about 15 mins away from BM. According to our CO, DF has to give BM two weeks notice of any time he plans to take the kids. He told her over three months ago. Well last night, BM decided to let DF know that she will only let him have the kids on her terms. DF sent her a text, confirming that he wanted his mom to pick the SDs up from school so she could treat their heads before they come in contact with my bios. According to the CO, any immediate family member can pick them up and bring them to DF for visit. BM responds with the following text:

"I never agreed to let your mom pick them up. Besides, I am invoking my first right of refusal and I need your work schedule for next week. I will pick them up from school each day you are in town and bring them to you."

If you've read any of my previous posts, you know DF and I are fighting a war with head lice b/c the SDs come back from her house with it every time we see them. DF states, BM, in the CO it states that my mom can be the go between. I moved my work schedule around so I can pick the girls up from school. I will be getting them each day I am in town. Also, I don't want them re-infected with head lice every single day.

BM calls my phone and starts screaming at DF about how we are going to follow her rules, to which DF states that he will get the police involved if she tries to interfere with his visitation. She gets all upset and starts whining about how she is just worried about her babies. She tells DF that this is all just her reaction to the fact that SD7 had a meltdown after her last visit with DF's mom. DF told his daughters that he and I were officially engaged during that visit. She states that SD7 was very upset and that he should rethink the wedding until SD is okay with it. DF tells her that he will discuss it with SD7 when we get to town. He told her that he is not postponing our wedding, but he will make sure he spends some time with SD7 trying to help her work through her fears about all the changes that have happened. BM takes this as a cue to tell him that he should have a talk with her and SD7 together. But DF was firm that he needed to deal with the girls himself.

So BM realizes this tactic isn't working and tries to start talking to DF about all her personal problems. He tells her that he needs to go. She just keeps talking so DF says I really have to go now, BM. He hangs up. About a minute later, we get the following text:

"That is why I don't talk to you about things dick. You can just play by my rules. I will meet you halfway between the girls school and where you are staying each day."

So here we are, back at the beginning. I really hate BM sometimes. I really do.