I haven't written on here lately because so much was going on. DH and I filed for full custody of the SDs. We actually won temporary custody. However, the SDs are back with their mom. I am still processing what happened. DH and I agreed to stay in the girls' home state for three months until school was finished and then we would go to court to decide if they would move with us to our home state after the school year ended.

However, it became clear that this arrangement wasn't going to work after SD11 really went nuts. She started throwing these violent temper tantrums. She literally would hit or kick anyone who tried to talk or calm her down. She would scream for hours on end. One morning, she sat on the kitchen floor, put her hands over her ears and screamed for over an hour. We couldn't calm her down. She attacked SD9 and bit her until she had a bruise on her arm.

It was a nightmare. She accused my DH of abusing her. They have a CPS worker that visits BM every week because her house was so disgusting. She told the CPS worker that my husband pushed her into the rocks and banged her head against a portable heater. She threatened to make further allegations about abuse. She told my DH, "I want to live with mom and I don't care what I have to do to go back there." She also told him that she considers her mom family, not us.

After this going on for a few weeks, the guardian ad lidem, the judge, my DH, and SD11's therapist all agreed it would be best for her to live with BM. There were a long list of concessions that BM had to agree too. This broke my DH's heart. He is still grieving it. But, I think it was for the best. SD11 is in counseling and has to stay in counseling. If BM doesn't follow the concessions, there will be another hearing. It should be interesting to see how this goes.