More Abuse Allegations...When does it end?
The SDs went home to visit BM for two weeks as per our custody agreement. DH and I are driving back to get them tomorrow. We knew there would be some type of drama. There always is. Well DH just got the following text:
"SD11 told me that you slapped her. Also, that you punished SD9 for not knowing how to make the bed. She is only 9. She doesn't have to make the bed if she doesn't want too. It is their room. Why would you punish her for that? Then you punished SD11 for helping SD9 make the bed. That is so messed up. I can't believe that you slapped SD11 for arguing. You could have just told her to stop. I am tired of your abusing our daughter."
First of all, DH did not slap SD11. In fact, he hasn't slapped either of the kids. This is just more of BM's attempt to use abuse as a reason that she should win custody. Ugh! And the thing with the bed. It did happen, but not like that. We bought the girls new bunk beds. SD9 gets the bottom bunk. Well she wasn't happy with that. She wants to the top bunk, but we told her no, SD11 is the oldest so she gets the top bunk. DH had just finished putting the beds up and told them to make their beds.
SD9 said no and threw herself on the floor. She refused to even try. DH let her sit there for a while then he told her again to make the bed. She threw something at him. He told her she was going to bed early (surprisingly, this is the punishment she hates most and it works most often). So SD11 (who can't help herself) gets in the middle and says I will make the bed. DH says no, you won't. Your sister will do it. She isn't going to throw a fit like a baby.
SD11 argued with DH and called him a stupid jerk, which resulted in her going to bed early. It ended up with SD9 finally making the bed, but she earned herself early bedtime all week and extra chores. Well, of course, BM doesn't like this. She never forces the kids to do anything. But as DH has told her many times, its none of her business what goes on in our house.
And anyways, how is 9 too young to make a bed??? My BS9 has been making his bed since he was 6. It's just more ridiculousness.
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Wow. What a wretched person.
Wow. What a wretched person. "Abuse." Harrumph. She's the abuser, teaching those kids warped behaviors.
Sorry you are going through this.
Don't think it will fully
Don't think it will fully stop until they are of age. Our BM use to call social services on us & tell them bizarre stories. After several of these false accusations she was told if she made 1 more false accusation social services would charge her
We've been lucky so far as
We've been lucky so far as CPS hasn't been involved on our end. Even after the SDs complained that DH was abusing them, CPS can't start an investigation because we live in another state and our in the middle of a court case. I don't think BM has pushed it because BM doesn't like CPS. They are the ones who started this mess when they investigated her and found that her house was unlivable. She was forced to move out of her house and it was condemned. They still visit her once a week to check on the welfare of the kids.
I actually agree. I tell him
I actually agree. I tell him to leave it.
It's actually worse. They
It's actually worse. They told CPS that they were abused. Their mom is under an investigation after she was living in a filthy house. They told CPS that DH tackled and hit them. The Guardian Ad Lidem didn't believe the allegations and refuted them in court. The judge told BM that she doesn't buy it either. She said, DH has been visiting with the kids for 8 years and you have never complained of abuse until you lost. There is no evidence of abuse.
Our final hearing is next month so she is trying to start drama.
Nope. And I think he did a
Nope. And I think he did a great job. Ignore her.