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Say Goodbye To Crazy

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Submitted by Coco72 on Wed, 02/21/2018 - 12:11pm

This book was just recommended to me, so I ordered it, I was reading the preview pages and O.M.G. this is my life!!!!

Has anyone else read this book? What are your thoughts?

I can't wait to get it, I know what I'm doing this weekend.

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Submitted by skatermom on Wed, 02/21/2018 - 12:25pm

I have read it. It should of been titled my husband's ex's first and last name. It's a great book. The only problem is getting your DH to read it too. I highlighted things that pertained to our situation as I went along, practically the whole book is yellow.

The basic premise is making sure BM knows you and DH are now a team and she is not a part of that and not a factor in your household what so ever

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Submitted by lala-land on Wed, 02/21/2018 - 3:40pm

Yes, I read it, used some of it and can highly recommend it. I wish I could have found it sooner, as it explains what some of the really crazy behavior is about and effective ways of dealing with it. The author also has a website with lots of interesting topics. I think it is called shrink4men.com, but it useful for anyone dealing with a crazy person.

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Submitted by dysfunctionally... on Wed, 02/21/2018 - 4:23pm

I am finishing it now. Ordered for the same reason - it could be based on our life!
I have it on Kindle and can loan it out if anyone is interested. Give me a few days and I will be done with it Smile

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Submitted by Twix on Wed, 02/21/2018 - 6:33pm

Does it gives tips and strategies?

DHs lawyer recently recommended divorce poison

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Submitted by dysfunctionally... on Thu, 02/22/2018 - 8:13am

It does however the strategies are simply how to rid your life of this crazy person.
For example - using Crazy's fears against her. Such as no communication unless specifically about the kids, and only written. If it is not an emergency, only respond after 48 hours. The theory here is that Crazy fears abandonment and sees communication as keeping her ex in her daily life even if it is through ranting and crazy behavior. When he responds she gets off.

Parallel parenting.

Using her wants against her - example, she wants to control little Suzy's dance class because that is where she gets all her recognition. Fancy dresses, lots of makeup, and she DEFINITELY does not want prettier SM there showing her up. Fine, put in CO that she has full control but TRADE her for all decisions regarding education. Basically you are making her feel like she is in control but using that to get what is actually more important.

Documenting everything that Crazy would not want the world to know about her. Is she cheating on her new spouse, guzzling alcohol at the bar while playing super mom at school demeaning anyone who is not with their children 100% of the time. Then use that documentation to expose her as leverage.

Honestly it was a great book. I have finished reading it but now am going back and taking notes to begin to implement some of what we learned.