After the choking incident last Tuesday, things with Winona have been nicer - she's been A LOT nicer to everyone, and on her best behavior with me, for now.

BM still insists on taking Winona SD18 to Vegas, and Winona tells me "she things she wants to go", but they are ALSO going to San Diego, to check out colleges (yeah right!). BM and Tweedle BF have already spent most of her tax return $$$$, and neither Skid has their promised graduation gifts yet (SD10 needs a laptop, and Winona's promised trip).

BM has promised it wont happen again, said 'sorry', and given Winona cash and expensive hair care products (drop off only, I told Winona that BM is to never ever cross my threshold ever again) as her bribe.

Yesterday, when dropping off Munchkin SD10 to BMs house, the conversation came around to Tweedle stating "I was just wanting Winona SD18 to get dirty dishes out of her room, and she went ballistic on me!!!" Referencing how the argument started last Tuesday. He is the perfect scapegoat, is what happened. BM can blame her boyfriend for all the issues and problems she has with skids.

I in turn, spoke up and said "Tweedle, you need to disengage. You and I (CLove) are NOT the parents. If we ask for anything Winona will go off. BM and SO are the parents, we are not. They need to step up to the plate, and WE need to LET them".

BOY did that feel so good to say!!!!! I practically shouted it. SO laughed at me later, because he was just praying I wouldn't say anything about BM and choking and slapping her own daughter. He told me "she will go after you.'
And I smiled and said "and I will slap her A$$ in jail so fast if she does!"

I know BM would never in a million years hurt Munchkin SD10, who is angelic with mother (and me too...) so I am not at all worried dropping her off. Winona, on the other hand, has this angry mean tone that just gets your hackles up. She sais things that get under your skin. Stone cold sober her mouthyness gets under my skin! No excuse, but I know it will happen again, her mother and her will go at each other again, she will say something at the wrong time. She just cannot help herself.

I have been advised to stay out of it. I am. I give advice, but she is an adult (in age) and can make her own decisions. I am not the bad guy anymore, finally, after 3 years.

I told SO that Winona will need to keep things clean, help out more, and he will need to be tougher on her, and actually be the 'bad guy'(aka be the parent), and he agrees. He tells me "there will be no free ride". We shall see, we can only hope.