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Submitted by classyNJ on Thu, 08/24/2023 - 9:03am

Well the wedding was just beautiful at sunset on the river.

I had the ages of the kids wrong.  SD7 and SS4

SS4 from what we can gather is on the autistic spectrum with maybe a side of tourettes.  The things that came out of the little boys mouth would send my mother in a tizzy.  He was picking up rocks and throwing them at us during the ceremony.

She was so graceful and just kept showing him love and patience. Her new DH would just run the other way.

I told her to read the letter in private and to let me know if she needed anything.  She has a long road ahead of her, but she was so happy Smile

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AlmostGone834's picture

Submitted by AlmostGone834 on Thu, 08/24/2023 - 9:19am

Oh God. What wisdom the years of experience have brought me. I hope for her sake I am wrong, but I too would be running the other way. 

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Submitted by justmakingthebest on Thu, 08/24/2023 - 10:15am

Phew... Being a stepmom to an autistic kid is no walk in the park. I got lucky and came in during teenage years. He had already had YEARS of ABA therapy and is a kid who will work hard and try. Not saying it goes well all the time, because that is SO FAR from the truth, but we make things work.

She does have a long road ahead of her. Her husband better start stepping up! 

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Submitted by CLove on Thu, 08/24/2023 - 10:16am

I see a loooong hard road ahead!

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Submitted by Rags on Thu, 08/24/2023 - 4:10pm

when someone marries an idiot parent who runs from their own ill behaved children..... at the ceremony.  That his child, that he ran from,  is special needs, makes the groom that much more detestable.

My condolences to your SD on her choice of mates.

 

 

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Submitted by Livingoutloud on Fri, 08/25/2023 - 4:32am

Tough road ahead.

Was the boy diagnosed or it just looks like he might have autism? Some kids with autism have tics that appear like Tourette's. Heck many people have tics that are confusing.  Tourette's is hard to diagnose because it's only diagnosed when everything else is ruled out and much observation is needed. Not at 4.

Other than that it's rough for a new SM. She must really love the guy. 

 

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Submitted by Cover1W on Fri, 08/25/2023 - 3:24pm

She was so graceful and just kept showing him love and patience. Her new DH would just run the other way.

This does not bode well.