So it has been a year since my last post. My SD ended up in emergency psyc for 3 days because she dident want to go to school. Her mother was lieing to us and she was having a hard time getting her to attend grade eight. So on the first day of high school SD pitched. A fit and threatened to kill herself and was hospitalized. Turns out her mom was giving her weed laced with meth. Child services was involved but nothing came of it. Then SD came Christmas and it was a mess. 
gast forwad to last month and she was hospitalized for having an eating  disorder and BPD. not two days after getting out after a month of treatment ah sis posting sexy pictures and being vulgar online and partying. Her mom and steal dad have broke up but have been staying in his hours for over a year. Nothing is changing and my poor husband has no say and is not able to help. It's so sad and SD to so cruel to him. He is not perfect but he is treated like shit by his ex and daughter then every few months she is calling him saying her daughter is a bitch and she can't take it for him to get her. But she won't come with us because she hates me (I set rules, boundaries and limitations to how she treats people in the house and my 5 year old).  It's so hard I just wa t my husband to have. A healthier relationship with her and she just wants to blame him and party with her mom... literally driving with her mom smoking meth laced weed. It maddening 

of course there is much more tummy turning details however I am just so sad for my hubby and for her. She could turn her life around and be good