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Sd texts about no electricity and COWs car getting repo'd

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Submitted by checkedoutsm on Thu, 02/28/2013 - 4:44pm

COW tells people all the time that Dh doesn't send his child support. It is automatically withdrawn from his check, so I don't know why she says that. Anyways, every couple months he gets a text or something from of the skids about how they are about to be evicted, have no electricity, car is getting repo'd, have no food or shoes, etc, so they REALLY HOPE HE PAYS HIS CHILD SUPPORT THIS TIME. Followed by a comment like "mom did write this for me or tell me to write this. I thought of it on my own!" (Complete with the missing not or another error) anyhow Dh is getting sick of it. He said they only contact him when they want something, and that COW and TeenMom SD18 are supposedly both working. They would never tell him if they got fired, but on top of that they get some state aid and CS from three men altogether. DH doesn't believe that they can't pay the bills, although they were evicted about 2 years ago. I know their lives are really shitty but I am torn about helping them. We make a lot of money but have a lot of kids (one with a chronic illness). We haven't had child support increased in a long time, but I feel like sending them more money would just would make them text my husband for money more often and wouldn't really help. We all know that sd just wastes the money he sends her on stupid crap like her huge Dora tattoo. I think he is done sending extra money, but sometimes I feel guilty about being well off while their lives are crap. What should I do, send extra now and then or not?

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Submitted by bearcub25 on Thu, 02/28/2013 - 5:22pm

Here is something I did with my bio when he and his gf were in a bad place. I helped them get better. I didn't give them money, but I did go to store and buy groceries. I didn't give money to pay bills but I would write a check to the utility company or whatever.

They did eventually learn to take care of themselves but I had to teach them to grow up.

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Submitted by checkedoutsm on Thu, 02/28/2013 - 6:25pm

I know that their situation is because of COW and Sds bad choices, but DH makes 6 figures and only has to pay 550 a month in CS. Of course, that is technically just for SS since sd is in college now, and we pay another 400 for health insurance she won't use, but I still feel guilty cause DH makes a lot and they work at Burger King. Reasonably i think that this is my husbands business and I should leave it up to him, but I am also a really devout Christian so I am wondering if it would be morally right to not pay them more.

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Submitted by checkedoutsm on Thu, 02/28/2013 - 9:16pm

That's good, I have to remember that, they need prayers more than anything.

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Submitted by checkedoutsm on Thu, 02/28/2013 - 9:20pm

That is what DH keeps saying, he is current on child support and if they want more money they need to go through the court. Seems like COW would rather curse him out on the phone or send the kids to do her work instead. The funny thing is the case was referred to court for modification a year and half ago, and that was the last we heard of it. It seems like it just disappeared