It's official...I started back to work this week. This will be a rude awakening for BM, and perhaps DH a little too. After DH and I got married, I quit my job to be home with our new baby daughter. Of course, that meant that I became the full time primary parent to the skids (9 and 12) who we have 50/50 placement of. So for the last two and a half years, I have been the one who gets up with the skids to get them to school, gets homework done, takes care of scouts/football/4H/band etc., gets the skids to bed, feeds them supper and cleans up after their less than grateful selves. All the while, BM, SD and DH all have had these soooooooo important jobs that take them away and make them unavailable to the skids for days at a time. DH sometimes wouldn't even be home for the entire time the skids were at our house... Meaning it was ALL on me. (oh and by the way, did I mention I did this all while managing an infant?)

BM and SD are EMT's and work 24 hour shifts. So she has essentially told the court she is unable to care for the skids on days she works, so she can ONLY take them on her scheduled days off. Every aspect of the placement schedule has been based around HER work schedule. she insists on dropping them at our house at 6:15 in the morning even on weekends because she needs to go to work and can't find someone to watch them. On days the skids have school, she drops them off at our house before school so I end up having to get them lunches made etc. Meanwhile DH isn't home either....he's off working(he's a pilot) DH has gotten tired of BM demanding that the schedule revolve around her job (what happens if she changes shifts/jobs???), while it doesn't even consider DH's work schedule. So he had petitioned the court for a set placement schedule. Our hearing isn't until Dec.

Well guess what....I have grown tired of being everyone's bitch. I am tired of being a single parent to children who drop me like a hot potato the second their goddess mother enters the room. I am tired of being an on call nanny for two parents (yes I feel DH is just as guilty here) who don't have a clue how much money it would cost them if they had to PAY for someone else to raise their children. But NO MORE!

A result of me going back to work>>>>
1. BM has been put on notice effective Nov, she will have to find a way to get the kids to school on her days. We are both working... and I am not available.
2. BM and DH will have to actually figure out hiring someone to watch the kids during summer and breaks and after school because I am Not Available. Even better...they will have to feel the pain of actually paying for childcare.
3. BD is in daycare now. As much as this breaks my heart, I don't have to worry about juggling her needs. She is in a safe, fun environment and I now have the ability to financially contribute towards her future!