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Submitted by cat1964 on Sat, 10/01/2011 - 4:50pm

:? I have truly considered disengaging from SD11, but how does this play out when SS goes to judge and is asked about our relationship? I finally got my SO to put his foot down, but she still following her mother's (I believe) orders!

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Submitted by cat1964 on Sat, 10/01/2011 - 5:40pm

what do you mean parenting plan? The SD11 is being told I am no one, and does not have to respect or obey me, because I am not "family". The BM is fighting for full custody again, which I am almost positive she will not win, but when the child gets to speak to the judge, what will he say about my having nothing at all to do with the child?

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Submitted by giveitago on Sat, 10/01/2011 - 5:32pm

I'd need to know a little more, is it a family court judge or a juvenile judge? Why are you disengaging from one and not the other? I would just be totally honest with the judge iether way!!

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Submitted by cat1964 on Sat, 10/01/2011 - 5:36pm

I meant SD goes to court, there is only one child, sorry. This is family court judge.

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Submitted by cat1964 on Sat, 10/01/2011 - 7:08pm

Thank-you, it's not abuse unless it is meant to hurt her? right?

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Submitted by princessandthepee on Sun, 10/02/2011 - 2:06am

I think if you gave a historical overview of your situation in a blog, including what has led up to the decision to interact differently with the two children, and what your specific conerns are, you would receive comments that are more apt to address your concerns, which do appear to be alarming to you. Not to sound like a therapist, ha.

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Submitted by cat1964 on Sun, 10/02/2011 - 2:04pm

Smile There is one child SD11 we have had custody since 5, I have been equal caregiver. Child after 6 years still refuses to show me any respect or appreciation for what I do for her. Have her 25-26 days out of the month. I know her mother and PGM tells her to do this. Her father has told her over and over to respect me but nothing changes. I am tired of wasting my breath, I am angry, miserable and frustrated all the time. I am not legally responsible for the child so why should I put up with her constant abuse? So, I thought disengaging would show her just how much I did for her and make her wise up. but if she doesn't do I really need her in my life?