So DH had parent/teacher conferences for SS9 tonight. They were conducted via Zoom due to the pandemic, which benefitted DH since we are long distance. DH, BM, and GF were all present for the conference. 

DH said it was clear that BM and GF had never actually met SS' teachers, even though they flaunt that they are so involved. DH actually laughed because the teachers kept referring to GF as "Mom" and when BM corrected them, the teachers apologized, saying that since GF is the only one who handles all of SS' academic stuff and all parent/teacher communication, they were under the impression that GF was "Mom" and BM was GF. DH said BM turned bright red when the teachers acknowledged BM's lack of involvement in front of DH. DH said BM and GF then started bragging about how wonderful and amazing SS is and therefore how wonderful BM and GF are for raising him. Classic MOTY tendencies.

The teachers explained that SS is doing great. He is a model student, very bright, and very well behaved. DH inquired about SS' "ADHD" since BM had him "evaluated" and "diagnosed" 3 years ago when SS failed to be accepted to the gifted and talented program. DH never believed that SS actually had ADHD and BM failed to provide actual documentation to DH, but insisted he had ADHD, which is why he was rejected from the gifted and talented program. BM again turned bright red when DH called it out and the teachers scoffed saying there is no way SS has ADHD. DH just sat back and enjoyed the moment. BM then snapped back, requesting that the teachers work with SS on his handwriting because it is "atrocious"... coming from the woman who writes like a kindergartener. SS' handwriting is great and reflects average handwriting for a 9-year-old boy. The teachers dismissed BM's request saying that they have enough students and can't correct something as small as handwriting and that SS' handwriting is great. DH said it was clear BM felt dismissed. 

Finally, to conclude the conference, the teachers stopped BM and GF from talking and monopolizing the conversation and asked DH if he had any questions. DH said it was clear that BM was irritated that any attention was focused on him. DH had his discussion with the teachers and asked his questions. DH said BM just sat there with her arms crossed, rolling her eyes randomly, clearly irritated that DH was "allowed" to be involved. Overall, I would say it was a successful conference.