Never easy
My DH and I are now traveling without my SD13 for Thanksgiving. BM refused to give an inch on custody and decided to have SD recite the Divorce Decree to my DH over the phone. My DH did let my SD know that the only way her mother is able to turn the screws on him is to use her as a pawn. My DH has been treated unfairly for years by the courts and the vengeful BM, so we all have to suffer as a result.
I did finally tell my DH that when it comes to planning trips having to do with my family that I would not let his ex-wife control our movements any longer. If I try to plan early and we do not get answers in a timely manner, I will not wait for my SD to ask. I will go with or without them. I will not tolerate another woman ruling my life.
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Sounds like a good way to go.
Sounds like a good way to go. It's so much stress trying to plan a trip and never knowing what's going to happen or if the Bm will freak out the week before and suddenly skids can't go or whatever.
The only real way to have any peace is to just follow the CO. Whenever people try to be flexible, it gets all messy and turns into double standards and so forth, then back to the CO they go.
There's a reason why courts require a CO to be established. It's too easy to start getting lax with the schedule, then mom is annoyed at dad, or vice versa, they argue about the kids schedules again and so forth when there is nothing to argue about! It's already outlined in black and white.
Best advice is to just stick to the plan. Makes it a lot easier to plan events as well.