Birthday

Well my birthday came and went without acknowledgement from the stepkids. I know SD and I have a strained relationship but I'm still hurt. It just gives me reason to further distance myself. I say it every year, I'm done with birthday's and Christmas for her and this time I mean it. I've always made birthday's special in our house. It's the one day a year to celebrate just you and no one else. I always had birthday parties for SD, even after 6 months of dating my now DH, I threw a birthday party for SD. Every year I cook a meal of her choice, I buy a cake, shop for all the gifts and invite both DH and my family over to celebrate. This year I promise not to even acknowledge her bday.

Maybe it's not a big deal to most people but a simple text of Happy Birthday would have sufficied. I don't need a card from her, I don't need gifts from her, I don't need to see her. But after all that I have done for this girl you would think I could have gotten a simple Happy Birthday text. Maybe your thinking it just slipped her mind and she didn't pay attention to the date but she recently started working for DH. She drives with DH to/from work, I'm sure he mentioned at one point that it was my bday. He came home from work with flowers, cards and a gift. She had to know. She being her selfish little self.

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I know how you feel. DH makes

I know how you feel. DH makes sure to have the skids message me and make me cards. Sorry you’re going through that. It has to hurt. Hugs

Happy Birthday

Be done with SD. Thats so rude and belittling, and thats their goal, to make you feel like you just dont count. Well, you can do the same and stick to it. Remember to give what you get.

Happy belated birthday!

She being her selfish little self.
STOP expecting ANYTHING from a selfish brat.

The skids know my birthdate. It's the same as SD25's babydaddy (once again remarked on this part Christmas). However, since I stopped reminding DH about his kids/skids birthdays, he is now ALWAYS late wishing them a happy birthday. And since then, the skids no longer acknowledge MY birthday. I suppose this is their form of revenge... ~yawn~

They are so thoughtless, they cannot be bothered to call or message DH on HIS birthday or Fathers' Day. Why would I expect them to acknowledge me??? I DGAF.

Stop having parties for thoughtless brats. Let their parents take care of it. If your DH drops the ball, that's HIS problem. NOT YOURS.

Happy birthday!

Why do things for anyone who doesn't acknowledge or appreciate you? I'd stick to my plan in no longer acknowledging SD on Christmas or her birthday. My skids never acknowledged my birthday. They don't even acknowledge my DH on his birthday anymore. I no longer acknowledge their birthdays or them on holidays. It is just how it is. It saves me a ton of money, which is a good thing.

Be happy your husband did something nice for your birthday. Sounds like a sweet guy.

Treat her the same way

say nothing on her birthday, don’t remind DH. No cake, no party, no card, no saying happy birthday. When called out. “ I must of forgotten!! Birthdays are no big deal ! “. Then let him insert his foot in his mouth Christmas. The same type of gift she gave you. If none then none, some thing cheap. Then three or four cheap crap gifts

two can play this game, and you are the one saving the money

Thank you all for taking the

Thank you all for taking the time to read and respond. I just need a place to vent. Also, thank you for the bday wishes. I have said in the past that I refused to buy bday or Christmas gifts previously but I caved b/c DH would end up doing it and going overboard. He admitted he would just take her shopping and he wouldn't have a limit. I am hoping that DH is starting to see the light and will back me up on this. When I mentioned to him that neither of his kids text me for my bday I could see the hurt in his eyes.

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