Okay I posted this comment in a reply from someone else's comment. (forgive me I forgot who said this....you will find me )
Anyway, this fellow SP said someone once told them to take dh to a playground for a few hours and let him play with kids he doesn't know and then ask him if he loves them.
Well, I thought this was insightful. I liked it. But I found it also amusing.....

Take dh to a playground.....

Oh thats good! I like that. Matter of fact, let me run with that, (pretending those playground kids are ALWAYS there)

Take dh there every other weekend.
No, no dh you cant have "other plans" i HAVE to go to the playground which means YOU HAVE TO ALSO.

Change of plans dh we are going to the playground again this weekend too.
I know WE had plans to be together, but the playground kids need me there, and i EXPECT you to WANT to be there too!

Oh, nevermind. We are not going.
And no we wont continue with our plans. Im too tired.

What do you mean that kid is rude to you?
Well i have been watching you dh, and you act like you dont even want to push that kid on the swing, what do you expect? Maybe you should try harder to push that kid like he is used to.

LOL anyone care to add?! I KNOW THERE IS MORE