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BM saying she fears for her life because of DH

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Submitted by cam0507 on Thu, 10/11/2012 - 9:44pm

Bottom line: BM falsely made an accusation towards my husband saying she has reason to fear for her safety. She does not fear for her safety and we all know it. She is setting him up for a protection order or domestic violence charge and we know it. It's no coincidence that this is happening months before a change of custody order gets reviewed by the court.

To protect DH from any more false claims we are going to videotape each and every exchange (me being the camerawoman) to capture all the exchanges. What do you all think about this? I know BM is going to be pissed that I'm going to be in her face with a camera, but I can't think of any other way to properly document the times that they see each other.

Any other ideas about how we could protect him from her lunacy?

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cam0507's picture

Submitted by cam0507 on Thu, 10/11/2012 - 9:55pm

Do you think it would be enough that I was present? Maybe I could just have the camcorder on my hip so she can see it, but not record anything insignificant? Or should I record everything?

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Submitted by hereiam on Thu, 10/11/2012 - 10:13pm

I didn't go, at least not in the early years. He usually took his BIL or niece or someone that did not fuel BM's fire. 'Cuz frankly, she probably would've just added me to the protection order.

I would go ahead and record it, if I were you. Let her know you mean business.

Don't let her bully you guys. I gave our BM the same crap she dished out and told her in the beginning to leave me the hell alone or I would sue her for harassment (she kept calling me one night). She never called me again except a couple of times, very nicely, about SD. And DH and I have been together 16 years.

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Submitted by IAmALady77 on Thu, 10/11/2012 - 10:10pm

I say record the entire exchange, I wouldn't edit anything at all just in case you need them as proof. If its obviously edited, it might not count you know? also send her a certified letter stating due to her behavior and false accusations, exchange of the children from now on will always be at the local police station. Make sure your husband protects himself and you both cover all your bases.

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Submitted by simifan on Fri, 10/12/2012 - 11:33am

i would do exchanges at the police station. I think this is your best bet and covers all bases. You are not exactly an unbiased witness. A video may help, but i'd set something up so it's not obvious.