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the non existant sex life.....

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Submitted by buterfly_2011 on Fri, 07/13/2012 - 12:01pm

I made a comment two days ago regarding the no sex that has been going on for a few weeks now..... told SO that maybe he needs to have his testosterone checked. I said it nicely in a caring tone. But I know it has nothing to do with that it's cuz of the skids and them being here.

So last night he goes to shower (he only showers at night if he is wanting sex) one of my favorite shows started last night. SKids were at grandma's for the night. He comes out of the bathroom in just his underwear (HE NEVER does that) comes over to me bends down over the back of the couch kisses me and says I'm going to bed. I say ok so I go to turn off the TV and he says no go ahead and watch your show..... WHAT? Ok so what I got from that was this:

He took a shower. He attempted to touch me. I stayed in the living room to watch TV. NOW he can say to me hey I tried but you wanted to watch your show.........

Am I crazy for thinking this is what his plan was?

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stepintexas's picture

Submitted by stepintexas on Fri, 07/13/2012 - 12:06pm

No, you are not crazy. That is what appears to have happened if that is your normal routine for knowing when he is in the mood.

TMI, maybe, but my DH is not interested lately either...and I also know the subtle clues to "it's a go" or "I'm not up for it".

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Submitted by overworkedmom on Fri, 07/13/2012 - 12:06pm

Girl-- That is when you should have jumped him and reminded him of what he was missing!

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Submitted by BSgoinon on Fri, 07/13/2012 - 12:09pm

I have just stopped beating around the bush (so to speak). Last night I asked him "you ever gonna stick that thing in me again? Or do I need to find myself some alone time".

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Submitted by stepintexas on Fri, 07/13/2012 - 12:12pm

How did that work out for you? I swear my DH is threatened by my BOB and alone time and thinks that is somehow satisfying me more, so why should he, I guess is his thinkng.

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Submitted by BSgoinon on Fri, 07/13/2012 - 12:39pm

DH travels for work, so we don't even SEE each other all week. I have to make the best of the time that I have him.

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Submitted by Jmom on Fri, 07/13/2012 - 12:17pm

See I pulled out BOB right beside DH and he was like WTH! After that he's been on point. . .

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Submitted by overworkedmom on Fri, 07/13/2012 - 12:20pm

we are about to have 10 kid free days! My master plan is to have a no clothes rule for all 10 days. Drop your pants at the door and be ready! Blum 3

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Submitted by ocs on Fri, 07/13/2012 - 12:47pm

i thought we were the only ones...LOL

We have both been not in the mood for about a month... sad huh??

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Submitted by buterfly_2011 on Fri, 07/13/2012 - 1:44pm

I stopped trying a long time ago. the cues in my house FOR NOT INTERESTED ARE

He doesn't shower
He lays on his stomach
He goes to bed before 8:30pm

Every time I even ATTEMPT to touch him ANYWHERE I get my hand slapped away. Rejection can only be taken so much then one just says "F it" And last night I wasn't playing the game of oh I'm not going to watch my TV show to make him feel WANTED. When I try EVERY SINGLE day to make him feel wanted and I get slapped away every single time. How about you make me FEEL wanted. Jerk.

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Submitted by stepmisery on Fri, 07/13/2012 - 2:13pm

When you said he slaps your hand away, I felt very still on the inside with a quiet, profound sense of hurt. I honestly cannot imagine how that must feel to you. It must strike you at such an intimate and deep level. If he put his hand over yours and drew it up to kiss it while saying I love you but not right now, that would be one thing. But to SLAP you away... that is so heartless and callous I really just cannot imagine it.

How much more strongly could he say "You do not matter to me." I am so sorry. Sad