So, when I got home from work yesterday DD was in her room asleep... cuddling with a stuffed dog I got her for Valentines Day. I just LOVE this child.

I woke her and climbed in her bed with her. I just kind of let the conversation flow naturally. Since she was sleeping at 430 in the afternoon, it was a good seaway in to asking what is going on with her.

She ended up telling me that this boy, has for a few months, just been making rude comments to her. Such as "no one cares about you, you should just go die" all the way to "go kill yourself, no one would notice". I asked her if anything had happened that would trigger such nasty comments from him. She said "No, I used to think that he just thought he was being funny. But it is starting to really hurt my feelings". So there was no conflict, no admission of crushes... nothing. Just out of no where he started making these comments. She also said that the only time they have ever had a conversation, it wasn't even a REAL conversation, it was only eye contact when ANOTHER kid (a little girl) was making fun of an autistic kid in class. She said that she heard it (the girl was sitting next to her) and looked up, and this kid was just staring at this girl (the one doing the bullying toward the autistic child) with a disgusted look on his face. He noticed DD was basically giving her the same look, they both looked at each other, shook their heads and my DD told the girl to knock it off. So, it almost seemed like the kid had a little compassion toward another child that was being bullied, but then turns and does it to DD. It doesn't make sense. I asked her if she would be ok with me taking this to the principal. Knowing full well that I was going to anyway, she said "yes, I didn't say anything because I didn't want to make it worse, but I understand that you have to". I asked her why she didn't come to me with this sooner and she said "because he is just an idiot, and I didn't want to make it worse, or ever give him any attention. But it's time to say something". Apparently no one defended DD when this was being said, but no one encouraged it either. She said it was like everyone ignored him.

So I went and spoke with the Principal. He was very understanding and took a lot of notes. He wants to speak with DD and then with the boy. He assured me that when he speaks with the boy he will tell him that the comments were overheard, and not brought to his attention by DD herself. He said "I am not an advocate of lying, but we also want to keep everyone safe and comfortable". He asked me if DD was seeing any kind of a counselor and offered the school therapist. I let him know that we had an appt with our regular Doctor. He said the offer stands if we need it. I will leave it up to DD if she wants to see that one, or the private one. I think she will choose private so kids at school won't see her going in to the office. I thanked him for his time and asked him to keep me posted so I know how to address DD when we get home tonight.

Over all, I think it went well. My little DD, she has been through so much this year. I just want to squeeze her.

Thank you everyone for your advice and concern. It means a lot to me to have this group to run to when I feel helpless.