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Evening Rant!

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Submitted by Brittnic45momof3 on Wed, 03/19/2014 - 7:00pm

I cannot even express how great this site is! I have been reading posts non-stop since joining!
Tonight's SS4 events have been just incredible!
To begin, FDH leaves for work at 7am SS4 begins SCREAMING and crying, I send him back to bed so he does not wake BS4 and BS6 when we do not need to be up for another hour. The day goes on uneventful ((he does NOT behave like that when dad is at work)) FHD arrives home from work early (eye roll!) and SS4 begins acting out like clock work. Starting with screaming over toy that BS4 has been playing with all day that he showed ZERO interest in. Followed by slapping and clawing my BS6 in the face, for NO reason. I send him to his room and tell him to sit on his bed no tv no toys and of course give my BS6 lots of love!
The rest of the day goes uneventful until good old bath time! All 3 boys take a bath at the same time, they have a fun time we have a large tub and they all enjoy it.
SS4 knows it is his turn to have his hair washed, mind you I am very careful when washing hair more so than probably anyone EVER....he begins to scream a blood curdeling scream with his tongue hanging out of his mouth!!! I am instantly Pissed off, rinse his hair and tell him to get out and go to bed.

Will this screaming tantrums whenever he does not want to do something ever end?! }:) }:)

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Submitted by ncgal1980 on Thu, 03/20/2014 - 7:46am

I wouldn't wash the kid, either, but I've pretty much disengaged from my three stepsons and don't really do anything for them that I don't absolutely have to. That's DH's job, not mine.

It sounds like your stepson is after FDH's attention, and this way works for him, so he keeps doing it. How does FDH respond when SS starts screaming and throwing fits? If he lavishes attention on the boy (more so than he does when SS isn't pitching a fit), that's probably why SS keeps doing it. Kids love attention and will often do whatever they have to to get it.

There's nothing you can do to stop it, and you're going to be exposed to it every day until FDH starts showing the kid some attention. FDH needs to make it abundantly clear to SS that this is NOT the way to get attention. If he doesn't do that - and YOU can't do it - nothing's going to get better, and the older that kid gets, the worse those tantrums will be. Trust me. I've watched one of my stepsons doing it, and it's just getting worse as he gets older. It's a freaking nightmare.