Ahh, a much needed (partial) break from being SD's taxi cab...
It's really the little things in life that keep me alive and off my rooftop with a shotgun.
For this past school year, minus when SD was participating in volleyball, I have had to get up, take SD11 to school, come back and pick up my DD, take her to school/daycare/therapy, go to work, sometimes come back home, than go pick up SD11 from school again.
I (stupidly) agreed to bring SD back and forth to school, so she could stay in a school district that neither parent has lived in since she was in 1st grade, so that BM and SO would quit fighting, since BM was throwing a tantrum that the school in our district that SD could ride the BUS to and from wasn't good enough. So now I am doing most of the work. SO takes SD to school Thurs because I work earlier that day, and BM only takes her on Fridays. Who is the dumbass here lol?
It doesn't sound like much, but it gets redundant a lot of times. This morning I said something about getting gas again, and SD says, "But we just got gas Sunday night!" Well, yes, we did, but I drive almost 100 miles a day between work and driving her to a school that is 15 miles away twice a day, and having to go all the way back home after, twice a day. That's 60 miles just commuting SD11 daily.
Which is why I am SOOOOOOO grateful that she is starting swimming next Monday, and I will only have to drive her TO school M-W, and nothing else! When I get home from work, I get to STAY home! YAAAY!!! (SO gets to go pick her up after work)
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I have thought about saying
I have thought about saying that several times, but I also the enjoy the peace of NOT hearing the fighting over THIS particular subject, but I need to complain/vent every once in awhile. I know for a fact that I am NOT doing it for high school, though.
You know it's OK to back out
You know it's OK to back out of taxi arrangements, I sure did. And you have a few more years until high school.
SS14 lives 3 hours away, 6 hours round trip. DH gets off work Saturday morning and then needs to drive 6 hours to get SS, then to bring him home Sunday evening.
I said I will drive Saturday so DH can sleep in the car. Well a few weeks later I'm pregnant when I thought it would have taken a few months.
I just can't do it. I had morning sickness really bad, now I have to use the restroom all the time. Also, those are my only two days off and this isn't my responsibility.
I told DH I was sorry but he'll have to sleep first and just stay at his parents house to see SS and save us an extra tank of gas.
It's okay to change your mind!!
I could never imagine how
I could never imagine how much it would stink to be expected to drive multiple hours to see a child. I know every situation is different, but that would drive me insane. 6 hours!? That's enough time to be well when leaving the house, and come down with the flu sometime on the way back!
A lot of the time I just do it on autopilot, but there are many days where I feel that this is not the way I want to be spending my time and resources, and many more days where I feel like it isn't appreciated at all, but expected, just because I agreed to it. Sure as shit BM doesn't appreciate it, hell she probably takes credit for all the parenting done by all 3 of us as her own accomplishment, SO has never said he appreciates it, SD, oddly enough, has mumbled "thanks" to me a few times, when I really expected jack squat from her. I feel that if I am not going to be appreciated and I have nothing to do, I would rather watch TV or crocheting videos on YouTube, or eat, or do nothing at all lol.