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Nice calm night last night

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Submitted by BMhater9 on Fri, 01/21/2011 - 1:36pm

Since we took my SS9's cell phone away we get nightly calls from either his BM or her Mother(Granny). Last night I decided that I didn't want to deal with it for one night and took one of the phones off the hook. I was so proud of myself. No one even noticed. Around 9pm Granny calls my DH's cell phone and I rejected the call. He was in the other room so he didn't notice. I listened to the voicemail and it made me smile. She was bitching about the fact that she had been trying to call for two hours and she just didnt understand....then I just deleted the message.

Why You Shouldn't Put His Kids First

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Submitted by BMhater9 on Wed, 01/19/2011 - 12:43pm

One of the biggest points of confusion and controversy as I talk to people about Stepmonster and stepmother reality is the injunction, “Put the kids first” and “The kids should always come first” and other variations on this theme. It’s become a virtual mantra since Constance Ahrons introduced the idea of “The Good Divorce” and highly cooperative co-parenting after a breakup as ideal for the kids. The members of the ex-couple, Mom and Dad, should put their differences aside, Ahrons urges, for the sake of a more harmonious “bi-nuclear family” or divorced family that spans two households.

She is nasty and I hate her

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Submitted by BMhater9 on Wed, 01/19/2011 - 10:01am

I went over to the BM's parents house last night with DH to tell them they werent going to see the kids for awhile. The fat, nasty bitch BM walks in the door. She has a scowl on her face the whole time. My DH confronts all of them about why when SS9 gets home from his visits there he is all upset with me and says he doesnt like me and seems depressed. The bitch BM says "I NEVER say anything about her at all. All I tell him is how much I love him." My BD5 also has spent most of her life visiting that family (mind you BM was never in the picture).