FDH just went to bed, and before he went up, he asked me to message SD22 and let her know we won't make it to her shower today. I told him that I ALREADY told her this 3 days ago, and that I don't understand why she's hounding him about going when I already told her why I wouldn't be there (his work schedule is an issue since we share a vehicle, and I have no sitter since he has to work and my mom isn't home, and I would have found a reason to not go any fucking way because I am just plain not interested in going).

I am NOT sending her another message. I told her already. If he didn't answer her texts, that's his problem, not mine. I will not message her telling her what she already knows and has been told at least once if not twice (if he told her as well). I will also not explain myself any further or apologize. That's life. People aren't always going to make it to your stuff, and not many people are going to be interested in going to your 2nd shower in 2 years for babies you PLANNED. Add to that that a thank you card is unheard of as far as she's concerned, and there you go. People get turned off by greed and a sense that you are owed rather than showing appreciation. She definitely acts like it's her right to be getting gifts from everyone. Why should she thank anyone for doing what they are SUPPOSED to do in the first place????

Without a doubt, there will be some passive aggressive post on facebook tonight where she goes over the top thanking everyone who cared enough to come and share in the blessing in her belly, and show how much her family means to them, bla bla bla, followed by how it's nice to know who loves them and who will be there for them, etc. Fuck her. I won't see it so it will be lost on me (she's blocked from my newsfeed), as it would be anywhere since I just plain do not give a fuck. She had a passive aggressive post like that after BJ's first bday party. She poorly disguised a big fuck you to everyone who didn't show up as a thank you for caring about us to the people who did. She just cannot fathom how her life is not the number one priority of everyone blessed enough to know her.

FDH was mumbling something about how he missed BJ's bday, bla bla bla. I think he's falling a little bit for her guilt trip. Oh fucking well. She missed DS6's bday this year. And???? Get the fuck over it. The world isn't gonna end because we didn't go to that bday party or this shower. If she's so damn desperate to see her dad, why doesn't she invite him over without there being a gift giving occasion going on? Oh yeah. Because she wants to be the center of attention and that doesn't happen on just any old day, that's why.