So many things-all at once, back taxes, broken legs, SD17, unemployment...NO MORE!
Viewing my life now is like a nitemare-
This last week has been hell. Trying to take care of Dad next door, get up to the hospital, where Mom is MAD about everything...
H came home on Wednesday instead of Thursday nite because of work slow down. He was here Wed, Thur. Frid, Sat., Sun, Monday.
What did he do? Well, Thursday he fixed SD17's car. Friday, he played cards. Saturday he played cards. Sunday he went & got his mom. Monday, he watched TV.
that's it. That's all he did (except grill steaks - had his kids over-and grilled chicken).
Friday evening his kids, SD17 w/boyfriend in tow, come running in the front door. I'm studying. I had fixed Dad's lunch, went to the hospital to check on Mom, doctoring my Pink Eye, and working on class. So I was busy studing-when the front door bursts open and SD17 SCREAMS-GET OUTTA MY WAY DOGS!. No knocking at the door, no hello. So I asked what's the rush. SD17 SCREAMS-I'VE GOT TO BEAT SD14 TO THE BATHROOM.
So I go in the office, close the door, and ignore them all. Then SD17 starts SCREAMING-IM HUNGRY! IM HUNGRY! And then she spies the jello cups H bought and left on the table (he, of course, is off gambling, tho HE invited the stepbrats here for supper). WHAT ARE THESE DOING ON THE TABLE? DO YOU WANT THEM TO SPOIL!!! (directed at me, of course, as H is still off gambling). I ignore her. Continue studying.
H comes home (after I call him and demand that since he invited his darlings here, he needs to be here also).
For the rest of the evening, I ignore H and his darlings and study.
The rest of the weekend was-me doing housework-here and and Mom and Dads. H either playing cards or taking his mom out to eat.
So today we go pickup the taxes. We WOULD be getting $3,900 back EXCEPT H owes back taxes, so that will be taken to pay part of those (from previous years, and there are still questions about years where he just never got around to filing at all).
Upsetting? yes. Especially since the house he has still has back taxes owed of $5,000.00 and he still hasn't taken care of that. It goes for auction next month.
Then H calls me, on his way back to work, and informs me he's being laid off. And he sounds quite pleased about it. I know he has visions of gambling his days away.
All of this, the $1600 he blew on the old bronco last month and the tool box, the tools, and his pickup is in the shop and has $1,000.00 repair bill due on it.
Remember the yelling and screaming he did over the cost of motel rooms for me to stay in Denver for Mom's surgery? My parents told me not to pay our utilities this month (utilities are in Mom and Dads names as this is their house).
I am not going to be able to go to school. That much is clear. I am apply now for jobs in the surrounding area.
And as soon as I land one, this leech is out of here. I am sick of his financial garbage, sick of his attitude towards me and my parents (we're good enough to furnish him a home, but not good enough for him to do anything in return), sick of his rotten witch of a daughter.
And to top it off, my nephew has been diagnoised with testicular cancer. He is scheduled for major surgery on the 26th.
Where does it go from here?
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Firstly.....
I just want to say sorry about your nephew and I hope his surgery goes well. I will keep him in my prayers.
Secondly, I cant believe that you have put up with this man for so long. What the hell is wrong with him :? He certainly doesn't derserve you or a roof over his head. He needs such a hu:ge kick up the backside and I would do it for you with pleasure :evil:
I'm so sorry to hear that you will have to give school away. Isn't there anything you can do to get around that? Although the thought of finding a job and finally kicking the leeches out must feel slightly conforting.
I just can't waiting for your post with the subject H GONE, NEVER TO RETURN AND I COULDN'T BE HAPPIER.
My thoughts and prayers are with you hun.
)))))HUGS(((((
I too
Cannot wait for the "H FROM HELL IS GONE NEVER TO RETURN" post!
Things can only get better from here for you!
Hope your Mom heals fast and that your nephew's surgery is a complete success.
My prayers are with you.
Step Parenting – you might need to step back before you step in something!
you are so right...
hey, I haven't followed your story in former posts, but first of all... I hope that your nephew's and mother's health gets better.
It sounds like he really IS a piece of garbage, and I don't know if you two have kids together but I think you have the right attitude, and used the right word "leech", I can't believe that he got upset cuz you had to pay a motel for your mother's surgery, and he GAMBLES!!! my goodness, you sound like someone who is doing way too much for this guy...
BW
First,
Sending you out a ton of prayers for your mom and your nephew. I'm sure they will be ok...
Now...I usually don't ever stick my nose in where it doesn't belong. I usually tell people, "Do what you feel is right" or, "Stay strong", or something positive to give them the courage to endure what they are going through,
BUT...
You need to get rid of this man and his horrid daughters!!!
They are sucking the life out of you. They bring NOTHING, Bewitched, nothing to your life. HE is sucking all the joy from your life, not to mention your finances.
You were SO happy to finally have a plan- a goal, something positive in your life, and now you seem to be abandoning it. It just seems so unfair.
Think about this. If HE wasn't in your life- mooching off you, taking advantage of you...
WHERE WOULD YOU BE RIGHT NOW?????
You'd probably have a job. Ok, not the job of your dreams, but a job. You'd be in school. And you'd have all the time in the world to devote to caring for your parents, PEOPLE WHO LOVE YOU BACK, and not have to deal with any of this ridiculous stress that you endure on a daily basis.
You'd be taking care of YOU.
I just want you to be HAPPY, Bewitched. And I know right now, with this man- you are not. And every time I see one of your posts, my heart breaks for you.
There. I said my peace. I'll never bring it up again.
"Of course things worked out nicely for Carol Brady...she had a live-in maid and Mike's first wife was DEAD!"
5teens-your advice is well taken-thanks to all for caring
"To Thine Own Self Be True" William Shakesphere
I have two applications for jobs out right now. I know this is the end of hoping for school, but I also know that its the end of hoping for school whether I'm with H or not. And I can't handle any more of his particular garbage in my life. I feel like I'm going to have a nervous breakdown...I know I will if I have to watch him, gambling daily, sitting on his butt watching TV, or taking care of things for his SD17, but nothing here in the home he lives in free.
The very minute I land a job, he's out. I will not let him ruin me financially, the way he has ruined himself, and his mother. Yep, he ruined his mother financially, but won't own up to it.
He talked her into buying a home here, tho she had a home paid for in another town. But he wanted her around to watch his kids. So she sold her paid for home-at no profit, and took on a mortgage when she was in her 70's, with a husband who was a paraplegic. Well, her husband (H's father) died.
She did a reverse mortgage, got ill, landed in the hopspital, the home was sold (at a loss) and now she is in the nursing home, with no home to go to, no money in savings.
All because she wanted to please H. All so she could babysit his kids.
Prayers for the job, please.