I was pretty much dumbfounded. H called and talked for about 2 hours tonite...mostly complaints about his boss, the work, being away from home.

But then the conversation changed to SD17. H is unhappy with her-she's spent all of Christmas break running around, going to movies, out to eat, etc. He's sure she's now out of money, as she took the entire break off from her part-time job. And he actually said that she'd better not come crying to him about wanting this or that or the other...

One thing he talked about was her breakup from her bf. They both work part-time at a restaurant. Seems one of the cooks was mad at SD17 (she refused to serve a plate he prepared as she thought the toast was burned).Of course, in her usual snotty way, she just told the cook "I refuse to serve this food". Instead of telling him nicely that there was a problem with it. Anyway, the cook insulted her-said he'd seen pigs that are better looking than her (sorry, small internal smile here). SD17 was upset that her bf did not stick up for her. Ummm. He's 16? And he's taken her bossing him around and being nasty to him for 2 yrs? Shortly afterward, they broke up. He's a nice kid-too nice for SD17. H said he had asked her if she really wanted a bf that wouldn't defend her. I, on the other hand, told him that bf was not that type of guy-not aggressive in the least-that he had let SD17 boss him around all the time, so she shouldn't be surprised that it's not his personality to jump to her defense. Afterall, he wouldn't even defend himself against her.

H then brought up how he defended me when we took her out to eat and she said his money is not mine. HE brought it up. Felt good. I haven't mentioned the incident since that day, but it's in my thoughts all the time. Of course, again, he said she just isn't used to us being married. Not. We've been married 8 months...how the hell long does she need to get used to it?

Anyway, it felt good for a change. Don't know what brought it all on, but whatever, hope it sticks around for awhile. This is more like it was when we were dating-he was a normal (seemingly) father with normal complaints about stupid arrogant teenage behavior. Instead of the infatuated father I've been watching for the last 8 months.