Ok so I have been with him for almost 2 years. He has 2 girls ages 11 and 10. The 10 year old is very laid back and is not affected by much. She could pretty much take or leave everything, including her father. The 11 year old is a different story entirely. This girl idolizes her father!! He is her whole world. She wants to live with us but her biomom won't let that happen. I am getting mixed signals from this child. Sometimes I think their relationship is strange. (I never had a relationship with my father) I come second. ALWAYS. I play back fiddle to his girls. My dilema is recently the 11 year old got a cell phone (despite the fact that in order to get this cell phone she had to keep up with her school work and she has not been doing that). Ever since she has been texting her father CONSTANTLY. She knows exactly what time he gets home from work and that's when it starts. I sit on the couch. By myself. While he is texting her back and forth. ALL NIGHT until she goes to bed. I am starting to feel like a roommate. Not the woman he loves more than anything like he tells me. I understand she is his child. I'm just wondering when is it gonna be my turn? When they are grown and gone and it's just me and him? Can I really handle being lonely for that long? I have two kids of my own by the way. They adore him. I just am wondering where do I draw the line? How much can I really take of this? When they come for the weekend I get pretty much ignored. I feel like a housemaid. I cook, clean, do everyone's laundry. The girls ALWAYS have clean clothes and good food to eat when they are here. They don't get that at their moms. He is way harder on my kids than he is on his own. I pride myself on being quite logical and very rooted in reality. I rarely jump to conclusions. I think it through first. I sit back and watch and observe. If I feel a certain way I always make sure I get the facts before saying anything. Therefore, I know this is not just me trying to be protective of my own children. If I tell my kids a certain punishment will happen in response to their actions, then it happens. His 11 year old can be very sassy. She rolls her eyes at me a lot. He threatens to do something about it, but never follows through. If MY kids were to do something like that, hell hath no fury! I keep thinking I'm gonna leave. I never do. I love this man more than I have ever loved anyone. I am thinking that I must have to come to my absolute end before I actually do anything about how I'm feeling. Anyone else feel this way? What did you do? I'm lonely and so hurt and sad I just want to cry most of the time.