cs vent
im just sad today and very depressed...despite all the bs thats going on bc of BM...im just so upset over the whole child support thing.
my FH and i bought some new furniture that we desperately need and i dont know how we are going to afford to pay it off...i put half down and we were going to use his stimulas check but it doesnt look like hes getting that til mid june bc he had to amend the return bc of SD's daycare. even w that, i dont know where we're gonna come up w the other $800. then he says hes refinancing the house next month so hopefully he'll get some extra money there. even w a lower payment it doesnt matter bc his CS payment is gonna go up.
i just get sick every time i think about how much money he has to give her and all the things we cant have bc of it, u know? i dont want to comstantly be worried about whether or not we can/cant afford stuff we want and need. what are OUR kids gonna have to go w/o so BM can continue getting her paycheck? helping take care of the kid is one thing, but its another when u make a decent living and have a lot of it go to her bc she has a minimum wage job and dropped out of school...how is that fair?? ugh...im just so frustrated especially when i think i may have to get a 2nd job so WE can have the quality of life WE deserve...how about that? no one cares of course
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Its not her fault
Its your DH fault for getting a person who dropped out of school, only able to get a minimum wage job, pregnant. Sometimes I wish guys could look into the future, maybe their ____ won't do all the talking....
its his fault for trusting her
and buying into her manipulation when he was so down from his dovorce and what his ex wife did to him...and it is her falut for being a waste of life, having a child on those terms and then using that child to earn a paycheck and make his life miserable...all bc he trusted her and she took advantage when he was down and out.
i meant
trusting her when she said she was on BC, but everything u said applies too! its nice men like ours that just get stepped on over and over and taken advantage of.
we all feel that way
trust me, my FH suffers for his stupidity and his mistakes more than anyone...the thing that really gets me is the whole support thing, the way its done here. if he would take a lower paying job, that wouldnt relieve him of his high CS obligation, BUT its okay for her to drop out of college and keep a minimum wage job??? and i just think the total support obligation is too high...i dont think it costs $900 a month to raise one kid, NOT INCLUDING daycare.
i want more children with my
i want more children with my H so far we have one but the way things are going with CS i don't know if we can afford to have another one..
thats the thing
we want a baby after we get married and i dont see how we can realistically...and hes always wanted the family that we can have together--w 2 people who love each other and want to raise a child together. its just really hard. i understand alot of states dont reduce cs if u have more kids bc u cant have more kids and neglect ur obligation to ur first but sometimes situations arent like that and it just SUCKS! i completely understand how u feel dragonfly...its a sad place to be.
here in texas we just found
here in texas we just found out that my baby is worth 2% ... im not kidding my H let CS know that he has another child and that the payment is tooo high and wanted to know how much they would lower the CS and they said 2%... that pissed me off
It is a complete and utter joke...
Lovers do not finally meet somewhere, they were with each other all along.
what our husbands pay out in c.s My dh currently pays $1100.00 a month for one child. I dont recieve a third of that from my ex for my bs. At dh and bm's recent meditation for modifications, bm got up and walked out because she would not agree to a lower amount of c.s for ss. Bm's own words to the attorneys and mediator were that the lowered amount would mean SHE would have to lower her standard of living!!!! Uhmmm hello!!!!!In the meantime we live paycheck to paycheck. Trial date to be scheduled soon for us, praying the judge will lower to the amount we were seeking at mediation,our attorney says it was an extremely fair offer, but bm obviously does not agree.