As hard as it was for me...my little foot was put down and no more will I take! Some little lightbulb came on in my head. I realized(with alot of talking to myself) that I DO NOT HAVE TO LIVE THIS WAY! I was choosing to live this way!
Basically my stepdaughter was running my home....NOW I AM!
She kept this house in shambles with her lying,stealing,mean,playing games between her father and I.She is just a nasty little girl who learned to much from her nasty mom.
WEll I am not that mom and she will learn to be a respectful young lady who people actually like to see coming instead of hiding their things or making their kids stay right beside them so she didn't do anything mean to them.
Last week my mental state was not good. I was done with him and his kids and I didn't want to do this any more. I realized I could be out having fun and enjoying my life instead of being miserable all the time wondering when the next ball would drop.
I was so ready to throw in the towel. I refused to live like this for another 7 yrs until the she devil turned 18.
But I didn't....I grew balls I guess you could say and told this man exactly how I felt about him and his! I told him that she wasn't gonna to make me age before my time. He could either step up to the plate and be a parent or he could hit the door and I really felt sorry for the next woman to come along. I told him that he was not teaching her anything by yelling at her...he wasn't teaching her anything by giving into her tears & her yelling back at him and her getting her way just to shut her big mouth!I told him it has gone on for 2 yrs now and it was to the point I couldn't stand seeing the child come in the room.
HELL what did I have to lose...except my mind...NOTHING! I would have been able to give all my attention to my daughter, spend my days and my money on me and her. I could go out on weekends she was with her dad, have a few drinks with friends. I could actually come home and sit in front of the tv and watch what I want to watch with a tv dinner if I wanted not have to cook a meal..It was sounding better and better the more I thought about it.
SOOOOOOO....after 2 hrs of yelling and saying just exactly what I had to say.....Changes came.....OMG my sex life is back...we have been so stressed out with her and us arguing over her that we just went to bed each night and slept....
So as I type this his she-devil is cleaning the bathroom(nasty toilet and all) but before this she had to clean her room and make her bed and vacuum her room and hall and living room.....and will still be grounded to her room when she is done. Why? Because she once again decided that rules dont apply to her. She was allowed to go outside yesterday and play but only out front where I could see her...instead she choose to go to someone elses house..even though she knows the rules.....so she choose to be punished again.
So ladies.....loving your man is one thing but living in hell is another...STEP UP!!!!! Don't let a man and his children run your life anymore...DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT...because if you don't who will!