After a great wedding where SD gave a heart felt and complimentary speech, she goes to her moms, we go on our honeymoon (great time!) return home last week and thursday she sends an email saying she isn't coming back. DH calls talks and thinks she may get on the plane saturday. Mom is no prize. she is living with her mom, unemployed, in and out of jail with no D.L Living on unemployment and child support from her 5 yr olds dad. Our 15 yr old claims she needs to stay cause her brother needs her, she feels a maternal instinct to protect and care for him. Which I can understand and commend except that she is 15, and needs to be protected and looked after herself, her future is being shaped in these next few years. I am so frustrated, I do not know how to say these things without being a callus and uncaring person. my heart breaks for as well, what a horrible thing at 15 to be feeling the need to take care of your brother because mom is not capable. Realistically the child is well cared for by his father and grandmother. there could alway be the other possibility that she met a boy and is using her brother as a ruse. Any way you look at it a child should not have the choice of where the live. (unless there are very valid reason to move) it should just be a fact of life that you cannot control those aspects, you should trust those "in charge" Her life should be much simpler. We should be arguing about curfews and messy rooms, not her need to care for a 5 year old or her mom, or sudden whim to move 3 states away. I am just frustrated by the whole situation and my husband is heart broken. We know she is not necessarily dissing us but it is hard not to be hurt. We go out of our way, as we should for a kids happiness, to provide the best life we can afford for her. MAking personal sacrifices, bag lunches, sit down dinners, the latest fashions and electronics, and lots of love and support. ya dy ya ya sorry havn't had SD issues for a couple of months now I am flooded with new thoughts,and worries and 10th grade concerns for her. Like driving next month and drinking and boys. What was I thinking, pretending I could do this!!!