Skids and their non-manners

I have noticed while reading many of the posts on this site that many of our skids come to us with no manners! My skids came to me at 3 and 8 and had zero manners. Even my DH had to be taught a few manners - I don't quite understand it. WHy do these BM not want to teach their kids respect, morals and manners?? I don't get it? When my ss turned 16 his bm took him and bought him condoms!! And then let his girlfriend spend the night at her house with him! BM also has another son who is only 6!!! Why would she think that this is ok?

It makes my skin crawl!

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Sounds just like our skids

Sounds just like our skids and our BM. No moral standards and I am expected to 'get with the program' But FH knows that I will not compromise my standards for his brats. It has caused quite a bit of unhappiness in our household but I don't care. Why should I be the one to change.

My FH was also a bit of a caveman when we got together, eating with his hands, not wearing a shirt at the table etc etc. But I soon got him right with that.

It's the kids having sex in the house that gets me. I will under NO CIRCUMSTANCES allow my DS20 or SD19 (and their respective SO's)do such things in my home. FH says rather that than them rushing off and getting married just to be able to do it under our roof....ummm I will not be blackmailed by kids/young adults that can't respect my wishes!

I think it is so "funny" how

I think it is so "funny" how the fathers of these kids defend them! And the kids will manipulate them to no end! And the fathers don't see it or if they do - they allow it! It truly blows me away! The dads are so afraid of losing their childrens love or losing their children to the BM that they will literally let them get away with almost anything!

I am lucky that I am "hopefully" getting thru to my DH on this point. I put my foot down - after he let his 17 year runaway and call the cops on me. (The cops ended up telling skid that he had 12 hours to get back home or HE would be in trouble for running away!) I didn't do anything wrong so the cops couldn't do anything to me! But DH was mad at me for stirring up trouble! I was just pointing out that ss had broken the rules AGAIN and that ss should apologize to DH. SS didn't like that and DH didn't that I confronted SS, when DH was going to ignore the breaking of the rules. Cmon - SS is almost 18 he can do what he wants now!!! Ohhh please!

Anyway after a few more fights and arguments and a few counseling sessions - we are on a better track. DH still has to be reminded that I don't take kindly to skids breaking the rules or DH letting them. From now on it is respectful or you get the bitch and the bitch moves out taking EVERYTHING with her.

And that does not sit well with DH because deep down I believe he loves me. He doesn't want to lose me or the kids.