I have completely disengaged from the skids. I was sick of being grossed out by everything they do. From bad hygeine to super fast eating and bad table manners. I work all weekend when they are here. I don't ignore them and I'm not mean to them. All they know is that I work a lot. This last weekend I came home from work and they were outside playing. Our bedroom is across the hall from the skids bedroom and I noticed the younger skids bedding was all torn apart. I know the older skid has an issue with wetting the bed ever since I've ever met him. I asked SO what was up with younger skids bed and he informed me that now the younger one has "grown into bed wetting". WHAT THE HELL!??!?!!??? I know I'm not a parent.... but it doesn't take a rocket scientist to know something is wrong here!!!! How do both boys "grow into bed wetting"!!??!!??? The older boy went to a councellor so they could try to find out what was wrong... last I heard (before Christmas) neither parent had the time to go to a follow up interview. That's about the time I disengaged. 2 months had gone by with neither parent going to a follow up session and then I just stopped asking. It was depressing to me as a non-parent but someone with common sence and feelings that this is just lazy,bad parenting. I'm not sure that there is or isn't anything a doctor can do for bedwetting... but neither do they since they don't take the boys there to ask. Instead of anything in this relationship getting better... it just keeps getting worse. I'm not going on any camping trips with them this year. I went last year and was annoyed each time by the skids and how they are constantly underfoot! They don't go out of a 10 foot radius of their dad!! It is sickening and there has to be a reason for it and I'm totally frustrated that SO just lets this all go on without trying to change or fix anything! Or in the very least... find out why they both just started wetting the bed and why they can't let dad out of their sight!! Something isn't right.... It's like they are abused or teased or bullied.... something like that. Something has to explain the odd behavior. Every child I have EVER come into contact with has always been very independant. Wanting to do things for themselves and go out on their own. These kids still don't put the peanut butter on their own sandwiches!! They are turning 9 and 11 this summer!!!!! Add to that how they both start wetting the bed out of nowhere???? Something is wrong. Seriously wrong.

I don't get it. I just don't get it.