So, the children have been living with us full time for a year, the last 6 months have been slowly getting more and more stressful. We moved to a new town so that they could see their Mother more often as we feel that they need to have contact with both Mom and Dad regularly. When they came to live with us so that Mom could further her education it was with the understanding that, they would spend school vacations with Mom, there was a parenting agreement signed in the lawyers office at Mom's strongest wishes, which she wrote up and we made changes to to make it work between the 4 of us. So Christmas was spent with Mom. Since then they have seen Mom only when she has come to spend a few days at OUR home to have time with them. What takes place is hardly fair as this is my home, and it feels like it is taken over when she arrives, the kids don't listen to anything that is said, and even their Mom says hey you better listen up this is not my home you know the rules and they still apply even if I am here.
All in all I actually get along with their Mom most of the time. When I got together with Dad there was a long talk about what we wanted and how the children needed to be considered thoroughly as they were so young. However I feel very overwhelmed and taken advantage of much of the time. I work full time, but still manage to get kids to school, from school, and take care of their daily needs. Now Mom is done school and its time to go back to have time with her, and the stumbling blocks that are being tossed out - no furniture for kids, trying to get settled with kids will be hard etc.. - we did it, after moving half way across the province and they missed 1 days of school while we did it. Am I being unrealistic to expect that the kids go to Mom's once she's moved?