So, SO and I had a lovely (ha) conversation this week about Xmas/Bday gifts for SD. He wants to get her a gift for both that we really can't afford, but, he whined and moaned about it until I just threw up my hands and gave in. Because, honestly, I was tired of hearing about how I just have a problem with him spending money on his daughter and how HE wants to get this for HIS daughter. Ugh, stop beating that horse. It's dead. Get over it. I will never have a problem with you spending money that WE HAVE on your kid, but I do have a problem with spending money we DO NOT have. And, yes, I know she's YOUR kid, SO because if she was MY kid she sure as hell wouldn't be the overly entitled princess that she turned out to be.

He's seriously got to set up his own private bank account for the money from his side job NOW so he can knock this nonsense off. At least then in the future I can say "take it out of your account because it can't come from the joint account". But, since all of his cash goes into the joint account, it's an issue that needs to be discussed (read: SO plots to get his way and then gets all miffed when I say we really can't afford to buy SD an Xbox for Christmas if we're to travel to NJ and buy gifts for other people, too). But, anyway, big surprise. He gets his way because he's an ass if he doesn't get to buy what he wants for the princess and I get stuck footing the bill for the rest of Christmas because I'm wise and have my own private bank account for my own money (and, truthfully, because I'm lucky that my grandparents were financially sound and left me money when they passed away this year).

But, the thing that really got me irked in all of this? He got miffed at me when I told him that I was going to use MY money to fix MY car. Quick back story: My grandmother bought me a brand new car in 2011 as a graduation present. SO dented the front left fender less than a month after I purchased it and promised to fix it. It never got fixed. Last May, SO dented and scratched up the right rear passenger door and promised to fix it. I'm still waiting for that one, too.

So, rather than wait any longer, because it seems that anytime we might have money to fix my car SO finds something that HE has to do with the money, I told him that I was going to use my own money and fix it myself. And he flipped. He got all offended and nasty about it. Well, sorry, SO, but, since you're not making any headway on fixing it for me, I'm just going to do it myself. I'm tired of waiting around for you to fix the things you say you're going to fix or do the things you say you're going to do. You're more than willing to screw US over financially so you can buy precious princess pants the gift of her dreams, but, you can't be bothered to keep your promises to me.

And he acted like this was a completely foreign concept, too, when I told him. I told him that I had a huge problem with his willingness to make OUR lives more difficult to make HER life momentarily happier and to forgo promises made to me for such extensive periods of time. It's like it never even occurred to him. All I know is that SO better be prepared to work through this when we get a new couples counselor because this is a HUGE point of contention for me. He says all the time that he just wants everyone to be happy, but, what he really winds up demonstrating through his actions is that he just wants SD to be happy.