I'm sick of the contempt between SO and GUBM
At this point, I don't care how much GUBM hates SO, or how 'forgetful' SD is about getting in touch with SO either. One of them should have, at some point in the past four days, responded to SO about what's going on.
They both live in NJ in Atlantic County, in an area that was forced to evacuate because of the hurricane. And, naturally, SO is concerned about their plans and what they're going to do, though only for SD's sake because he could really give a damn about what GUBM were to do if SD weren't with her.
SO has been trying to get in touch with SD and GUBM for a few days to see how SD is, to see what she and GUBM are planning to do, if they have a safe place to go to wait out the storm, you know, the basic kinds of things any parent who gives a damn about their kid would like to find out in a situation like this.
But, neither one of them has responded to him. And that's frustrating him. And, naturally, it's frustrating me because it puts SO in a bad mood and, then, he takes the bad mood out on me. SO and I have enough problems in our relationship right now without this nonsense adding to it all.
Honestly, I just wish that GUBM would get over her contempt for SO and understand that when SO texts her in situations like this to find out what's going on that it isn't a critique on her parenting - even though SO knows how much she sucks at parenting - and, rather, it is his genuine concern for his child.
Granted, from today on, I would understand neither of them contacting him because who knows what's going to be happening as far as weather and power are concerned wherever they are, but, he's been trying to get in touch since at least Thursday night to find out what's going on with SD.
The only non-stupid reason I could think for neither one of them getting in touch with him would be if they had gone to GUBM's dad's over the weekend and just decided to hunker down there without any of the things that they would need, like, cell phone chargers. But, then, that's dumb anyway because he's been trying to reach them since Thursday, and, at some point, they would have known he was contacting them and could have contacted him back.
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BM and SD12 do this all the
BM and SD12 do this all the time to my DH and then he started doing it back. We haven't had anything as serious as what you guys have going on now with the weather but they have gone weeks without returning phone calls or texts from DH. SD12 has her own phone so there was no excuse. He then tried BM's phone thinking something was up with SD phone. Couple of months ago he was so frustrated that he just stopped. He stopped calling he stopped texting and guess what we got . . .a text from BM stating how he had dumped them for his "new family". Go figure!
This is the usual story for
This is the usual story for SO, SD, and GUBM. GUBM ignores him, SD ignores him. Hm, I wonder where she learned that from? GUBM is the same way with her own father as she is with SO, ignoring them until she needs money from either one. SO constantly keeps up the contact with her, but, she will only contact him back when she wants something. Like, when her Xbox died. She wanted to know if it was under warranty because she wanted to get it fixed. But she can't be bothered to contact him just to say "hi" anymore. This has been an ongoing issue since she and her mother moved to south Jersey. I often wonder if there will come a day when SO will just say "forget it" and give up, or, if he's going to stress himself out with it forever. Only time will tell.
And, if he doesn't keep up the contact, then, he gets guff from GUBM about how he doesn't really care about his daughter. And, whenever he tries to get in touch with SD via GUBM - which is often because SD doesn't respond to his calls or texts unless she can get something out of it - she gives him crap because she interprets every "Hey, I've been trying to reach SD, I'm not sure if her phone is lost or not working, so can you have her call me?" as a stab at her oh so stellar parenting skills.
SO finally heard from her
SO finally heard from her last night. They live five minutes away from Atlantic City, which was evacuated and one of the hardest hit areas, her town was not, because their elevation is higher or something like that. SO explained it to me last night, but, as soon as he said "she's OK, her town wasn't evacuated because it's safer than AC" I sort of stopped listening.
I know that's what I was concerned about, whether her town was getting evacuated or not, and, if so, where they would go.
The only problem is that SO doesn't have a CO. He hasn't made any attempt to get one, either. He doesn't even have a CS order, he just pays it because he cares about his kid. I tried telling him once upon a time that a CO would save him a bit of aggravation, but, he didn't listen, and so, I stopped caring about that. Deep down, I do care about SD, but, I've washed my hands of the drama in the situation. He only talks to me about GUBM and SD when I initiate the conversation and let him know that I'm willing to hear about the drama.
If you can somehow get a
If you can somehow get a message to me I can check the area they live in and let you know if they have power in the area and if it was mandatory evacuation. I know right now we have 140,000 people out of power down there. were in the tail end of the storm right now I just came in from outside (its 329am) and its cold and really really really windy.
Im sorry she hasnt contacted you, that sucks
Thanks for the offer, I've
Thanks for the offer, I've sent you a message. As I said in my reply above, SO finally got in touch with SD, but, it wasn't after poking at GUBM to find out what was going on, and, surprise surprise, she took it as a critique on her skills as a parent and got all offended because SO was concerned about the welfare of his daughter.
Of course, in all the concern over SD, I completely forgot about the rest of our family that lives in New Jersey. My poor brother-in-law was stranded in a tow-truck overnight last night, surrounded by downed trees and power lines (his place of business does emergency towing for the police in their area, so, I guess they deemed it necessary that he be out and about *shrug*). And they left him stranded in his truck for more than twelve hours because it was too dangerous to go get him. Luckily, a coworker got him around 11:30 this morning. But, he was terrified. His dad died from an accidental electrocution, and, so, he's developed a strong fear of electricity.
SO's niece was stuck working at her hospital to help care for anyone that came in, and SO's sister's house was throttled a bit - the awning over her front porch was ripped off. Oof.