For those of you who read part 1 of my Christmas drama, here is the rest.
So after DH dropped SD off at the much-disputed exchange site, he swung by the house to pick me up & we went off to our party. We decided to forget BM & enjoy the rest of our holiday. I noticed when I got in the car that SD had left her 2 stuffed animals in the car however.
***Backstory: SD was given a teddy bear at birth that she carries EVERYWHERE. A while back she lost BEAR & BM bought her a stuffed cat to replace it. A few months later, BM found an identical teddy to the one who was lost so now SD has both BEAR & CAT that she takes everywhere. When she started kindergarten this past fall, we suggested she leave one of the 2 toys at our house (no toys allowed at school) so she'd have one at each home & all the back & forth could stop. BM of course said no, how could we even suggest such a thing, the horror :sick: So now SD comes to our house from school every week & spends 2 night without BEAR or CAT. She has adjusted just fine, this is not a problem for her, it's less of a headache for us & we think she has become more independent because of it. When SD showed up with the toys the other day, I was surprised but SD said BM said it was ok since she didn't have school. Btw, our BM is one of those who cannot stand it if one of "her" belongings is at our house & will incessantly demand the clothing, toy, hair tie, etc. be returned immediately. End backstory***
I told DH that SD had left the toys so, when we arrived at the party, he left his phone in the car so as not to be inundated with calls & texts from BM. Of course when we got home, there were the texts "Do you have BEAR & CAT???" DH emailed BM "Yes, SD left them in the car. If you need them before I see SD next week, please let me know next time you are in OURTOWN & you can pick them up." This was mainly because I said to DH that there was no way in hell he was making an hour round trip to deliver 2 stuffed animals.
So, DH & I are relaxing at home Christmas night. We had a long holiday week, were exhausted and it was the first time we had been alone in days. SD calls. I hear DH "Merry Christmas! Did you have a good day? Yes, I have BEAR & CAT. No, I can't bring them to you tonight. I'm already in my jammies. Well, um, ok, I guess that would be ok." This whole time I'm giving DH the look of death. Then BM gets on the phone & DH says "Ok, I'll just meet you there in 20 minutes." He then proceeds to get dressed & leave, doesn't even tell me where he's going, when he'll be back, or even goodbye. I'm sure he knew how angry I was. When he got back, I asked if SD was happy to see him. Nope, because BM sent her boyfriend to meet him & pick up the toys! I was so pissed, I then got dressed, left the house in search of a bar & had a couple drinks. I was mad all night, we were still fighting this morning, & DH still just doesn't get it.
I have so many issues with this, but here are a few:
1. BM has NEVER allowed SD to call DH on any holiday, EVER. Yet last night, she suddenly had a change of heart. BM just wanted "her" toys back & she wanted them immediately & she didn't want to drive an hour to pick them up. So she got SD all worked up & then had her call & guilt DH into meeting her boyfriend halfway. Because god forbid SD didn't have BEAR & CAT for a couple of days or even a week, even though she doesn't have them at our house EVERY WEEK.
2. Of course SD has not called to thank DH for leaving asgoodasitgets, getting out in the freezing weather & driving 30 miles to return her toys that she was too irresponsible to remember to take back to her mom's with her. Yeah right, wishful thinking.
3. Since BM's boyfriend was the one who met DH to get the toys, I'm sure he got to play the role of the big hero who returned BEAR & CAT to SD. SD probably doesn't even know that DH drove to meet him.
4. Maybe it's just me, but I think that it's ridiculous for a 5 1/2 year old to carry around a couple of stuffed animals. Quite frankly, I think it would have done her some good to not have them for a week.
5. DH doesn't even realize that he got played. Once again, he did exactly what BM wanted him to do because he is too blind to see how she uses SD to get what she wants every.single.time.
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For those of you who read part 1 of my Christmas drama, here is the rest.
So after DH dropped SD off at the much-disputed exchange site, he swung by the house to pick me up & we went off to our party. We decided to forget BM & enjoy the rest of our holiday. I noticed when I got in the car that SD had left her 2 stuffed animals in the car however.
***Backstory: SD was given a teddy bear at birth that she carries EVERYWHERE. A while back she lost BEAR & BM bought her a stuffed cat to replace it. A few months later, BM found an identical teddy to the one who was lost so now SD has both BEAR & CAT that she takes everywhere. When she started kindergarten this past fall, we suggested she leave one of the 2 toys at our house (no toys allowed at school) so she'd have one at each home & all the back & forth could stop. BM of course said no, how could we even suggest such a thing, the horror :sick: So now SD comes to our house from school every week & spends 2 night without BEAR or CAT. She has adjusted just fine, this is not a problem for her, it's less of a headache for us & we think she has become more independent because of it. When SD showed up with the toys the other day, I was surprised but SD said BM said it was ok since she didn't have school. Btw, our BM is one of those who cannot stand it if one of "her" belongings is at our house & will incessantly demand the clothing, toy, hair tie, etc. be returned immediately. End backstory***
I told DH that SD had left the toys so, when we arrived at the party, he left his phone in the car so as not to be inundated with calls & texts from BM. Of course when we got home, there were the texts "Do you have BEAR & CAT???" DH emailed BM "Yes, SD left them in the car. If you need them before I see SD next week, please let me know next time you are in OURTOWN & you can pick them up." This was mainly because I said to DH that there was no way in hell he was making an hour round trip to deliver 2 stuffed animals.
So, DH & I are relaxing at home Christmas night. We had a long holiday week, were exhausted and it was the first time we had been alone in days. SD calls. I hear DH "Merry Christmas! Did you have a good day? Yes, I have BEAR & CAT. No, I can't bring them to you tonight. I'm already in my jammies. Well, um, ok, I guess that would be ok." This whole time I'm giving DH the look of death. Then BM gets on the phone & DH says "Ok, I'll just meet you there in 20 minutes." He then proceeds to get dressed & leave, doesn't even tell me where he's going, when he'll be back, or even goodbye. I'm sure he knew how angry I was. When he got back, I asked if SD was happy to see him. Nope, because BM sent her boyfriend to meet him & pick up the toys! I was so pissed, I then got dressed, left the house in search of a bar & had a couple drinks. I was mad all night, we were still fighting this morning, & DH still just doesn't get it.
I have so many issues with this, but here are a few:
1. BM has NEVER allowed SD to call DH on any holiday, EVER. Yet last night, she suddenly had a change of heart. BM just wanted "her" toys back & she wanted them immediately & she didn't want to drive an hour to pick them up. So she got SD all worked up & then had her call & guilt DH into meeting her boyfriend halfway. Because god forbid SD didn't have BEAR & CAT for a couple of days or even a week, even though she doesn't have them at our house EVERY WEEK.
2. Of course SD has not called to thank DH for leaving asgoodasitgets, getting out in the freezing weather & driving 30 miles to return her toys that she was too irresponsible to remember to take back to her mom's with her. Yeah right, wishful thinking.
3. Since BM's boyfriend was the one who met DH to get the toys, I'm sure he got to play the role of the big hero who returned BEAR & CAT to SD. SD probably doesn't even know that DH drove to meet him.
4. Maybe it's just me, but I think that it's ridiculous for a 5 1/2 year old to carry around a couple of stuffed animals. Quite frankly, I think it would have done her some good to not have them for a week.
5. DH doesn't even realize that he got played. Once again, he did exactly what BM wanted him to do because he is too blind to see how she uses SD to get what she wants every.single.time.