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SD13 - Need advice please (a little long)

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Submitted by Anywho78 on Tue, 05/31/2011 - 9:11pm

I have blogged before about SD13 but I’ve never gone into details on the behavior of SD13 or her sister (SD15)…I don’t plan on going too much into detail, but before anyone throws out “well, they’re teenagers”, please keep in mind that their GM (SO’s mother-who is lenient as HELL) has banned these girls from being in her home without SO present.

SO has tried and tried to get SD’s to visit, but to no avail. We have seen them COMBINED about 10 times over the course of 2 years. Every time they’ve been over, they go home and lie to their BM about anything they can come up with, act like my SO is horrid to them and are in general, bratty, ungrateful, deceitful, manipulative, malicious girls.
SO just wants a relationship with his daughters…there is a LONG history of PAS with their BM, but they now know the truth yet continue to treat their dad like crap.

SD13 hasn’t been here since January. SO has tried to get her over (we only live 20 minutes away) but she’s got excuses out the kazoo.

SO spoke with BM today…she wanted money for camp for the SD’s and also is telling SO that he needs to take SD15 to get her learners permit. This BM also has a tendency to brag about all she is doing with/for/about her children to SO rubbing in the fact that they are with her and are on her side, not his…so…my dingy SO let slip that we are going to FL (One uppers be damned!!) and she of course told the SD’s.

Text convo…
SD13: What are you going to Florida for?

SO: To drop SS8 & SD7 off with their BM & vaca

SD13: Can I go?

SO: Hi, I’m good, thanks for asking, how are you? So what, I’m not good enough for you to visit but I’m good enough to take you on vaca?

SD13: I come see you about as much as you come see me

SO: Not playing your game. You come on vaca with us when you are a part of this family

Soooooooooo fellow STalkers…sorry this is so long…SO has asked that I post this to get other perspectives. Is he being too hard on poor little SD?

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Submitted by Anywho78 on Tue, 05/31/2011 - 9:26pm

Thanks NCMom,

He's bent over backwards for them time & time again...he's learned the hard way that this is how it's going to be and is slowly learning to accept it.

He told BM hell no with regards to camp & he's told SD15 that he will take her when she visits...so we shall see.

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Submitted by Anywho78 on Tue, 05/31/2011 - 9:20pm

Thank you! He had a HUGE smile after he read your comments...guess he just needed some "back up" aside from his mom & I Smile

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Submitted by zazzery on Tue, 05/31/2011 - 10:39pm

I'd be furious if my SO stooped to play the same game as a child. Instead of "socking it to her", maybe he should try family counseling?

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Submitted by starfish on Wed, 06/01/2011 - 5:25pm

YAY SO...... i think he deserves a blow job... and i think that kind of positive reinforcement will help him continue this great behavior!!!

so happy you don't have to see skids all the f'n time.... great post!

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Submitted by Anywho78 on Wed, 06/01/2011 - 6:32pm

Thanks Starfish Smile he was rewarded sufficiently Wink

It is nice not to have to deal with the SD's often, I have to admit. It's the resident Skid's BM I have issues with, but alas, can't have everything, can I? Must be thankful when I can Dirol