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Your expectations for BM- relating to the BMs/SMs rules for each other blog

Anon2009's picture

Submitted by Anon2009 on Sat, 02/13/2010 - 5:16pm

Reading everyone's responses to and making my own rules for that blog made me think of something.

What, if anything, do you expect of/from BM?

I really don't expect anything from BM anymore, except that she leave our family alone. She used to send the kids nasty messages via myspace and DH told her to cut it out. I'm done expecting her to be civil and adult-like towards me. I used to want her to feel grateful that her kids have a good SM, but not all dreams come true.

What are your expectations?

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Thetis's picture

Submitted by Thetis on Sat, 02/13/2010 - 5:20pm

Currently, I just expect BM to keep SD healthy. Its about all I want to hope for. I won't even throw happy into that because SD is the definition of upset child (from all the books I have been reading)

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Submitted by soverysad on Sat, 02/13/2010 - 5:20pm

I have no expectations for Wingnut. I make her respect my boundaries. I don't expect her to respect them because she thinks "no" means "let's negotiate", but I won't allow it.

"A pessimist complains about the wind, an optimist counts on the wind changing, a realist adjusts his sails"

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Submitted by jenjen on Sat, 02/13/2010 - 5:47pm

I want mine to take responsibility for herself and her children, but I dont expect it. I guess I have no expectations, if I did I would be constantly let down.

There are rules I have for her, but I dont expect anything.

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Submitted by Nymh on Sun, 02/14/2010 - 5:14pm

What I want out of her and what I expect out of her are two completely different things.

What I want is for her to keep her drama and psycho crap to herself, to stay out of my life, to take care of herself and her son, and to keep a clean and healthy home.

What I expect out of her is for her to insinuate herself into my life and attempt to mess with my head at every possible opportunity, to blame me for all of her problems, to be the eternal victim, to harass and neglect SS and to keep a filthy and disgusting home that isn't suitable living space for the animals that she lets crap on the floor much less human habitation.

*~So sayeth Nymh~*

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Submitted by LMR120 on Mon, 02/15/2010 - 3:05am

I used to expect her to keep us informaed on what happens with the skids when she has them like what has happend at school, if one is sick, when something good happens to them but she doesnt. So now all i expect from her is for her to cause problems and act like a douche bag Smile If you keep your expectations low then you cant be disappointed.

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Submitted by BridgingTheGap on Mon, 02/15/2010 - 11:52am

All that I ask is that BM keeps a respectful distance. I respect her as the mom. She should respect me as the woman in BF's life. That's all. Nothing complicated but as we all know, most insecure women must complicate simple matters by inserting themelves where they are not wanted or needed.

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Submitted by pafreema on Mon, 02/22/2010 - 1:05am

I look at it the same way you do, not because we are on the same page. BUT I can say I have walked in your shoes!