Kids bashing their SPs on Facebook
I know some kids (classmates of SDs and younger) who do this. They're in the 14-15 age range. As you can guess, they are bashing their ncp SMs.
I believe that people shouldn't air their dirty laundry on FB. I love these kids, and don't know what to do or say. Should I say anything to their NCP bio-parents (I know many of them)? Should I say anything to their CP bio-parents? Should I write the kids and say "hey, I love you so I want you to know this isn't a good idea, why don't you talk to your ncp bio-dad/SM in private?"
This has been going on for some time, but another poster's blog about her SD venting about her on FB made me wonder if I should step in to try to help/redirect these kids to more appropriate outlets? My previous idea was to stay out of it. I think we all need to vent, including kids, but it shouldn't be done on FB.
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"If it were me, and I knew
"If it were me, and I knew the kids very well, I would have a generic talk about not posting anything negative about anyone on social media. If these kids have the brass to bash their SPs online, chances are they have much younger targets as well."
That's what I think I'm going to do. I'll also mention, like an OP said, that employers look at FB and FB histories, and that they don't want to see anyone bashing anyone else there.
"SS13 knows if he so much as calls anyone a "poop face" or any other even mildly derogatory term, his FB account will be seized; all photos replaced by anti-bullying images; passwords and contact information changed; he will be banned until he reaches the age of 18."
I hope he doesn't live with BM. Kids are smart and often will just set up new fb profiles.
On steptalk, we're not going
On steptalk, we're not going by our real names and fudge a lot of the details to protect privacy. On Facebook, people's names are shown on the profiles. Those are big differences.
I agree. It's hypocritical to
I agree. It's hypocritical to bash SK's here and expect them not to bash back on their own websites. What goes around comes around.
My own kid (DD16) has done it to me (in spades) and I've given it right back to her. Tough cookies, kid. My own daughter has put me through more hell than any of my adult steps put together. You would not believe the crap she posts online. Calling other girls c's and mf'ers. Talking like a little wigger. Wearing white eyeshadow trying to look like a gang member. Hopping on the bandwagon when one classmate wants to do belly piercings at her house. Losing her mind over a boy who used her. Posting inappropriate pics. Basically disregarding anything I have taught her not to do.
But the little hypocrite gets mad as hell when I post about her. Oh boo hoo.... I embarrass her.
My steps have also given me a talking to when I brought up up a fight with their dad on FB, but sometimes the assholery is too much and I still vent about him anyway. Too bad. They don't have to live with him anymore. I do.
Going public has helped prevent his drinking buddy from passing out in my bed anymore, ended the misplaced rages against me from morning PMS because I two glasses dinged together and woke his sorry ass up. Being the buffer when he wants to go after them for something. I protect them from his hyper overreaction to small misunderstandings.
I'm not going to sit there and take anything quietly.
You fuck with the bull you get the horns.
Sad thing is that A LOT of
Sad thing is that A LOT of people bash other people on FB. It is crazy and FB makes people crazy.
I would give the bio parent and step parent a heads up.
I think it depends on how
I think it depends on how well you know the kids and parents involved. If you really do know the kids well, I think I'd send them a message and just let them know that there comments reflect on their character. I think, again just depending on all the relationships, say something to either the bio or the stepparent-just as an informative sort of thing. But again I am one of those people that like to be in the know.
Nevermind teenagers, I know
Nevermind teenagers, I know some adults who still post their boohoos on FB about how their absentee fathers let them down again by not calling on the day they said they'd call, but then turn around and refuse to let them visit because "they weren't there for me for x so they can't be here for y."
It's a crazy, vicious, and somewhat contradictory cycle.