Yep. My husband's ex-wife told everyone my husband was a "dead-beat dad". The church paid her mortgage for four months. Her friends gave her money. Her parents gave her money. She got free stuff everywhere...school supplies, car repair, contact lenses, ...on and on and on.

My husband paid $2,700 a month in child support for two kids. We were never even one day late paying.

When we found out she was lying, we sent the church a letter. And we told her parents. She was asked to leave her church.

And we ended up with custody a few years later. She went from $2,700 a month to a big fat $0!

BM has never went as far as to call him a "deadbeat" but when she is pissed off at him she does tell him that "her new boyfriend is a better father than he will ever be".

We never respond to her when she behaves like that. DH is a great father...he coaches the kids' sports, attends all their functions, supports them financially and emotionally, etc. so her opinion of him doesnt really make a difference. Especially when we have never seen her "new boyfriend" come to any activities, conferences, etc. In addition, their family is on every welfare program that is offered so he cant be financially supporting them too well.

BM and I could be in the middle of a conversation about kids and she will randomly make comments, like "now that you are in the picture things are better, because he never use to come around to see the kids." which is 100% false, because he was always over her house with kids (he didn't have a place of his own for a longtime he lived with his family). She doesn't come right out and say "dead beat" but she hints about it in almost every conversation I have with her. My reply is always the same. I don't want to hear it. Stop! The worst part is that I believe she has told the kids that "she" is the only parent, because last weekend the kids told their father that the only "parent" they have is their MOTHER! OMG!!!

BM has never called DH a "deadbeat dad", but when she was cussing me out last month, she told me that my husband was pu**y whipped because he lets me abuse his daughter! (SD apparently had been telling her that I call her "fat" all the time. (just the next lie in a long line of many!) This is one of the reasons why I refuse to be alone in the same house with SD...I am constantly getting accused of saying or doing things to SD, so now, I will always have another adult with me when SD is there.

My DH has been accused so many times by BM ("Psycho") of being a deadbeat dad that he gave everyone (including her family) the pin code to the online Department of Revenue site which shows weekly the amount of $$ coming from his account to her. Case closed.