My dad cheated on my mom, and I had to hear about that "f'ing whore" from my entire life. My dad, I think cheated on wife number 2. He was a serial cheater apparently until he met wife #3, who in my opinion is a great, smart, and very strong woman who would never put up with it.

I don't wish bad on my father. He had some personal issues that have nothing to do with me, and it doesnt change the fact that I love him and respect him as a father.

I understand that my mom was hurt, but she should have seen a counselor instead of telling her kids.

To me....if you're to the point that you're thinking of cheating, then break the eff up with your spouse, SO, whatever.

Because if you're thinking about it, you're probably gonna do it. It's humiliating for the other person and you're dragging a third parting into your relationship.

Bad. Very, very bad.

DH cheated on me with a coworker. It was years ago, and it's still hard to get past. It never completely goes away. It's comfortably numb now, but it's still there.

I used to wonder if DH were to leave me to be with coworker, I would turn into the Insane BM. I think if we were to divorce for any other reason, I would be able to be completely "about the kids" and try to just be the best parent possible. If the coworker ended up as SM to my boys, all bets are off. I wouldn't be proud of myself, but it would take serious restraint not to be the most difficult BM ever to her. I would need to dream about karma helping me out every night to get me to calm down. I would need to see professionals on how to be the best parent I can with all the emotions I'm feeling in the way.

Hopefully that's all in the past now, and I can concentrate on my boys. DH isn't giving me reason to believe anything is going on, and he loves our little family, so I just have to hope for the best. I can't waste negative energy on useless worrying.

As bad as things can get at times, I have no desire to ever cheat on DH. I pity people who are so self-centered that they can't think beyond themselves. I pity people who feel the need to act on desires like that, without realized (or ignoring) the potential outcomes of those actions.

I totally agree, if you want to cheat, then you shouldn't be in a relationship or married. My SO's ex cheated on him for around 2 years. She threw it in his face and said if you don't like it, leave. He finally left, I have no idea how he put up with it. He was hoping she would get it out of her system or come to her senses for the kids sake. His kids were 11 and 6. He thinks the older one might have known what was going on because I guess there were a lot of fights, but he doesn't know. I think eventually she will figure it out if she hasn't already.

My SO's ex wife cheated on him twice. She had him bad, he was totally manipulated by her from what I gather. The first time she cheated, he found out and she left him for the man she cheated with. She got pregnant with her new bf who didn't want to commit to her or the baby... in the end my SO took on her child and took her back (can't believe he could be so weak). They then went on to have a little girl of their own, one year into marriage BM was caught cheating again. I believe that the karma in all this is that one day, when her little girls are old enough to understand, they will know that their mother cheated on their loving and doting dad... and will have 4 kids by 3 different men (at least.) I don't think karma is always clear cut and obvious, her latest marriage hasn't failed (yet) but she is known as the stupid woman who cheats and sleeps with lots of men.. which is karma in itself