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SD12's older sister (half sister from same BM) stayed a couple nights with us. She refers to DH as "Daddy Firstname" or "Dad", but he isn't her father. She was adopted by BM's Dad and SM, whom have no relationship with BM and are great people, came to my baby shower, lets SD15 visit, etc. No problems whatsoever with SD15 visiting or with the maternal grandparents; they're wonderful. We respect them as parents of SD15 and they respect us as parents of SD12STB13 and they're nice to me and came to my shower and everything. (Grandma despises BM, but I long ago made no-trashing-BM boundaries)
So SD15 (not really actually SD, but SD's half sister, and now legally 'aunt' I guess?) - said aww this baby is going to be NUMBER SEVEN there will be SEVEN of us NOW, three girls and four boys... referring to herself, SD12(almost 13), and BM's other four kids, two of whom she still has custody of (all have different fathers).
NONONO my baby is the ONLY BOY. He is the FIRST for me, not one of freaking seven crotch droppings from their whore of a mother.
It nearly killed me, but I was gracious and said "aww yeeaaaaah you have so many brothers and sisters huuuuh"..
But NO my baby is NUMBER ONE, NOT NUMBER SEVEN AFTER BM'S GAGGLE OF six all half-sibling kids. NO. FUCK NO. They are NOT related to my baby in any way and are not siblings. I will refer to SD's older sister as a sister, as I have always tried to include and welcome her in our home as SD12's sister, but not all those other kids. That's YOUR siblings, not my baby's siblings.
I was super sweet, but this happened Wednesday and I need to just vomit it out :sick: after everything being wrapped up in SD12 universe all weekend.
*Language warning below*
And if one motherfucker says anything about how precious SD was being born or fucking dumbass BM's delivery while at the hospital, I swear to God I will not be the timid nonconfrontational Anna, I will tell them they are tacky, trashy, dicks and to get the fuck out.
My baby is due on stupid SD12's birthday...I am really paranoid about people making commentary about that (had one person make some reference to DH getting lucky in March or some bullshit already)...Also, DH made me let SD12 go to an ultrasound and she was all "was I so cute" "what was MY ultrasound like" "did I move my hand and was I the cutest evaar"...DH said Dunno, I never saw any of yours. EVERYFUCKINGTHING revolves around this girl. She will NOT be at the hospital because I don't want to hear about her stupid ass birth while I am in there having/just had my baby. I would like to have one fucking day where it's not about her and everyone stroking her ego and making sure everyone knows she was first and mostest specialest evaaaar. I never even had any worry or thought about that at all until he drug her to the ultrasound and it was all about HER and BM's stupid pregnancy. :sick:
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Amen!!!!!!
Amen!!!!!!
"But NO my baby is NUMBER
"But NO my baby is NUMBER ONE, NOT NUMBER SEVEN AFTER BM'S GAGGLE OF six all half-sibling kids. NO. FUCK NO. They are NOT related to my baby in any way and are not siblings. I will refer to SD's older sister as a sister, as I have always tried to include and welcome her in our home as SD12's sister, but not all those other kids. That's YOUR siblings, not my baby's siblings."
Number one to you, not to her.
She's not asking you to think of it as number seven, she's saying he's number seven to HER, the way she sees her family.
I don't think you should be getting worked up over that. She at least includes him.
You don't expect that your baby is number one to everyone, do you?
Seriously? The kid that said
Seriously? The kid that said it isn't even really related to her baby, but she's nice enough to try to include the girl in her family anyway.
She's pregnant and she's having a terrible time with her stepdaughter. She's ticked about the ridiculous comments people are making around her pregnancy and her kid.
No where in here is she asking this baby to come first before anyone.
Uncalled for.
I agree with you. The OP is
I agree with you. The OP is venting. She's pregnant and emotional. This baby is her first and as such means the world to her. Come on, honeyO, if you don't have anything nice to say, keep your opinions to yourself. It's not like you offered any advice. And, as OP stated, the 15 yr old and her other half siblings with the exception of the SD12, are in NO WAY related to OPs baby.
Exactly, my goodness. OP, try
Exactly, my goodness.
OP, try to enjoy your pregnancy as much as possible. I had my emotional moments about my pregnancy too, but at the end of the day, this is your first baby so try to make the experience as wonderful as possible.
I wasn't around DH's kid while I was pregnant. If I had to deal with other people making it about her, I would lose it.
Try to take is easy Anna.
Try to take is easy Anna. This is such a special time. I know that you are having a really hard time with your attention whore of a SD. Do the best you can to ignore her and focus on you and your baby. You're right, this baby is #1 to you, and that's what matters the most. I hope the rest of your pregnancy goes well and that you are able to get the baby's room finished before he arrives. Best wishes!
I think I was misunderstood
I think I was misunderstood because of my emotional state - *I* claim the older half-sister of SD12STB13 as a sister and welcome her in the home and have absolutely no issue with her or her grandparents (I adore them actually).
My point was it upset me (privately) to have my FIRST baby referred to as "one of seven of all the BM half-sibs".
Of course I get her intention, which is why I was actually nice and sweet about it and didn't say "erm no he is not a crotch dropping from your BM".
I Knew/know what she meant, and she didn't mean anything hateful about it. It still bothered me inside because I am so sick of stupid BM's 50,000 pregnancies being brought up.
There are no ill feelings towards SD15; I'm the one that invites her over, includes her in family activities, and all that jazz. No its not that SD15 was doing any thing "wrong", I just don't want my first/only to be referred to as yet another in the long line of BMs multiple babydaddy babies.
I understand how you feel and
I understand how you feel and commend you on your restraint with the 15 year old.
Now any adults that piss you off at the hospital are fair game. }:)
I knew how she meant it, it
I knew how she meant it, it wasn't intended as an insult so I didn't respond insulted (still didn't have to LIKE it that he was listed as "number seven" when he is not however, he is my first).
I registered as private. NO one will be at the hospital except DH and I. I have no family in town and DH's family would come the next day or they'd come to the house a few days later.