Said my piece
In a previous post I vented about BM showing up at MY house unannounced. The last time was the last straw. Well, the b*tch did it again tonight. Even though BM and skids were told they needed to OK BMs unscheduled arrivals with me or DH they did not. Skids think they can just call BM over whenever they feel necessary. It doesn't work that way. I called her after she left and told her if she ever shows up at my house again without OK from me or DH, I will have her arrested for tresspassing. I mean what I say and say what I mean.
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What?
Ex wife just shows up at your home?? What is her problem? Oh no this just wouldnt fly.....Is she crazy? or just dont care or what....I dont blame you and if she did show up at my home with out notifying me first..CALL THE LAW....
Happens all the time for me
Yeah, can relate. I went off once! Took her about a year and she's back at it again. So I let SD know fine, but she is not allowed in our house when we are not home. And.....we would appreciate a call. Seems like she always calls when we are gettin it on!
I think I would pour on the sound effects if BioDad or his .....
WhackJob mother called us while we were inflagrante. I would make sure that the head board was banging the wall with gusto throwing out prodigious moans and squeals and whole bunch of load Oh God, Oh Yes, Go, GO, GOOOs. Even if we had stopped to take the call.
That could be loads of fun.
As far as BioDad showing up at out home unannounced, never has happened. He has never once come to pick up his son (my SS) even when SS was to young to travel as an unaccompanied minor. BioDad is afraid to fly and GreatGrandPa would come pick up the Skid. If BioDad ever did show up it would be unannounced and I think I would just shoot him for trespassing. (at least that is my fantasy).
Too bad we no longer live in Texas. Shooting him there would likely result in some kind of award from the State for limiting the population growth of welfare children. BioDad has four out of wedlock spawn with three different women and is always on the look out for his next WombDonor.
Best regards,
lucky us
We live 60 miles from BM so there is no way she would ever show up on our door step. Plus that involves work and that takes effort BM is not willing to put forth unless it benefits her.
sorry this may be crude
But if it were me and BM called while we were "buzy" I would answer in the breathy, lovely voice and play it to the hilt.
She called MY DH
and left a voice mail that said she didn't appreciate my phone call, BLAH, BLAH
BM use to do this ALL the
BM use to do this ALL the time, late at night. She would call SD on her cell phone, the next thing we knew someone was pulling into our driveway and the kids were running outside. Drove me crazy because she would do this when I was home alone with the kids. She would come over and say she was taking one of the kids shopping (always right before dinner). I couldn't say anything because H and I were not married. So H finally told her enough was enough she cannot just come over, if she wanted to see the kids that is fine but she would call first. Low and behold a few months later she came over at 8:30pm right after the kids had showered and were getting ready for bed. I didn't answer the door because I didn't want to deal with her, so I ignored it and waited to see if H called me saying she could see the kids. I finally called him and he told me she had been blowing up his phone and threatened to call the police. You see SD is BM's from another marriage so H has no custody of her. Needless to say she called the police, they came and SD went home with BM, SS went to bed upset because his mom was being a shit, and that was the last time SD came over for more than 2 days. BM screwed herself because now she doesn't get a break from any kids so she gets pissy when SD calls to ask if she can stay a whole week and H tells her no, BM gets so angry, it is pretty amusing but that was the last time she stopped by unannounced.
Isn't that funny
that the BMs are all in your biz intill they realize they just lost their free babysitter.
I swear my SDs BM thinks of us as a babysitter for her. She plans her vacations around when SD is WITH US. So she doesn't have to take her, she says SD is great when in her care. But common on, if she is such a peach why doesn't she take her on vacation.
ASKED DH TO TURN HIS PHONE OFF!
Yeah, I've thought about doing the breathing thing too! The last encounter was just last weekend, 8:30 in the morning, phone rang and rang, DH said forget it I'm done and have to much on my mind.
So I popped up got my coffee and sat in the kitchen. I did mention... that you know, this has happened numerous times. I think for now on you need to turn your cell phone off and take the house phone off the hook! He just looked at me like a DOH DOH!
Another time in the middle of the day, the doorbell rang. The door wasn't locked. Someone kept ringing it and knocking. We just laid there and low and behold HIS BM opened the door and started yelling his name. He didn't say anything so I yelled out that we were in the bed. She said....I'm going to get some veggies from the garden and DH said okay. She said okay, Love you Honey! So back to the drawing board we went. 10 minutes, the door opens and she yells I got the veggies, I will see you later, Love you! LOL! I looked at him and said, you have got to be kidding me!
You see, I get screwed every which way but the right way!
See why I'm angry?
Witcheepoo
My marriage is in jeopardy because of stepkids.
My life sucks right now. I'm married about 9 years w/ 2 ss's (19 & 17). We have 2 kids together, 6 yrs. old & 16 mos. old, and 5 mos. pregnant! I need help & advice and just someone who can relate. Since the beginning of our marriage we've always had fights over my 2 ss's. He shared custody w/ the bm but now they live w/ us & things are much worse. They don't like me or respect me, especially the younger one. He even told his father that he hates me! Husband says I deserve it. It hurts me very badly that he would say that. This is not the 1st time he's said it either. I feel that he does not put our marriage first. I'm pregnant but doesn't seem to care what I'm going through. I've lost hope for this marriage to work. He said that I have mistreated his kids over the years. I don't see how when they are so spoiled by him & the bm. I'm always the bad guy especially if I tell them to do something around the house. They said they don't feel welcome at my house but how can I be happy to see them when all they do is make my life harder. They're lazy & selfish! They don't like me and don't say it to me personally but I know they tell they're friends & bm. I dont' know what else to do. I have not been speaking w/ my husband for the last 2 days & it's becoming unbearable. I don't want a divorce so what else can I do or should do?
mine too
you know that the SSs just do that to get to you. Because they can. It is a power/control thing. If you are upset you lose focus on (whatever caused the arguement) and it gives them total control over you.
I am going through something similar myself.. only on BS and one SS16. the SS steals by going through all my drawers in my room, takes money from the change jar (i made my H put a lock on the bedroom door) goes through office drawers and LIES about it the whole time. It is a violation and control thing.
My H puts work first and then me and then the kids... so the problems with the ss16 usually get put on the back burner or ignored.. which is WHY WE ARE WHERE WE ARE!!!!. If there is no support from the H... you are nothing! worthless! And the SSs know it!
Your H should be shot for telling the SS that you deserve their hatred. that is BullSH*t!!! What kind of a man brings you into a family and tells them no LETS THEM reject you without any repercussions??
my H has had sole custody since SS was 3 and I think the combination of BM being HUGE irritant (wants SS to live with her..) and the hormones that is causing SS16 to lash out harder at me. I am the one that sets the rules and expectations. I am the one that punishes and hands out work.. therefore I am the DEVIL and should be tortured (and yes what I go through is torture on a daily basis.. oh and verbal abuse)!!!
I think NOT. I am making my own stand here and now. Calm and rational and a tape recorder are my friends now. What hurts me is that it takes such extremes for H to step up to do anything!! When it should be handled before it gets to that point.
If H can't support you and talk out your feelings on the matter then he doesn't deserve you at all! If you are being called a witch.. act like one! Tell H what is going on and what you see. Tell him to come down to earth and take a hard look. RECORD your interactions with the kids and show him.
I started this and before SS16 was precious little angel and I was overreacting or being too sensitive! HA. Cameras don't lie.
think on that? and hugs! I know where you are at. I'm living it daily.
The light at the end of the tunnel is NOT a train!!
Thank God BM lives far away
That is exactly why we can't live near her! I would go ballistic if she ever showed up at my door!!!!!!
"A lie told often enough becomes the truth." - Vladimir Lenin